Dating want to go further but body hang ups

[zarazara87]

Hi,

I've come out of a awful abusive relationship. Spent lots of time healing and I have been dating a guy for around 3-4 weeks.

He is amazing completely different to past relationships. He is sweet kind funny and gorgeous! He like me has been hurt and we are both a little guarded.

He tells me how amazing stunning and beautiful I am!

He is talk and slim
I am short and around size 16-18

I have huge hang ups on my weight and body. But he Lifts my confidence up all the time, I think we will sleep together soon but I'm terrified he will see me naked and run a mile. I have been single along time I feel so scared. Any body have similar experiences how did u conquer it

Don't worry, most attractive thing is interest/enthusiasm, outweighs everything.

He can see you, he is not expecting some stick thin body under your clothes. He thinks you’re stunning and beautiful - hopefully if you get a bit further you will be even more convinced by that.

My boyfriend is short and has a belly (and is ginger 😂) - he’s actually lost weight since we first got together but truly I barely even noticed what size he was, and tbh I’m completely sexually infatuated with him.

So imo it’s all about the connection.

He can see what you look like, clothes don’t hide that you’re fat. He likes you so stop worrying, he’s not going to run a mile.

Tall, slim people aren't necessarily attracted to the same body type. I imagine your curves are something he admires.

It's a cliché but wearing something you feel good in can really help - a nice underwear set or maybe something like a babydoll nightie that gives a little more coverage. (Sites like Love Honey have good options in all sizes). Also, pampering your skin and adding a little perfume could add a little more confidence.

I hope you have an excellent time together.

It’s hard OP.
He likes you, you like him, you’re gonna have to go there!
If it helps I lost both nipples due to cancer last year and have had two lovers this year. I can’t imagine either man dreamed about shagging a nipple less women. Both managed it with aplomb though!

I think you also worry less about the 'fine detail' as you get older. It's more about what you are doing and how rather than how you look.

I was in a relationship with someone who worshipped my size 18 body. I had list 10 stone so there was plenty of loose skin. My previous sex life was very disappointing so in my new relationship I was determined to enjoy myself and not put up with selfish sex. I can honestly say that confidence is a massive turn on. Release your inner goddess. Enjoy urselves.