Successfully Locked

[HappyLocked]

My work has me in one state for a month and then home for a month, so in total 6 months home 6 months away. About a year ago I start self-locking in a Chasity cage and really enjoyed the orgasm denial, but I still had the key.

Finally, got home and had the courage to talk to my wife about becoming my key holder. 35 years of marriage and vanilla sex the entire time she was shocked. We talked a lot and at the end of the conversation she smiled and put me in the Chasity cage, and she took the keys. I cannot believe I could have lost this wonderful emotional intimacy with my wife. I am so happy, and she is starting to tease me which is so wonderful.

Unsolicited advice. If you have a good relationship with your partner, talk about your desires.

That’s wonderful! I wonder will she begin to explore her fantasies with you?

I certainly hope so, this is very different from our normal. So going slow so I don't screw this up.

Thank you for saying it is wonderful I am locked up. Means a lot to me

Happy to help! But you don’t need validation from someone on the internet. Your kink does not cause harm or distress, it doesn’t make you a bad person, it really is a beautiful thing to share and explore our sexuality with our partners.

Congratulations on sharing this with the wife and on her for her positive attitude on it - hope it brings you both closer together. For tips and advice would recommend looking at the Lovehoney forums where there are some discussions on this from others who follow this lifestyle - also Evolving Your Man blog has a lot on this, written from a female perspective.

@HappyLocked just a safety thing, make sure you have an emergency key in a sealed envelope or some other container.

No-one wants to be "that guy" in the news that had the fire brigade called in to cut off a chastity device due to an emergency!

@BobOn Good idea

@HappyLocked just a further suggestion - getting your wife to "lock" the envelope with her written words, e.g. "You aren't allowed to open this unless it's a genuine emergency. I will check it isn't opened on xxxx date."

@Mermaidparades you are right, of course, about not needing validation from someone on the internet. But, it does make me happy that other people are pleased that I am locked up. Odd I know, makes me even happier that my wife has had me locked now for 220 hours. VERY HAPPY.

Just a update, she kept me locked for 479 hours. :) Can not wait for her to lock me up again.

That’s 19 days!! I imagine that gives you immense pleasure!

Just when you think you've read it all, along comes some bloke desperate to share his made up fantasies with women on a parenting website ..

Can't you get a job or a hobby or something? Although you'll get plenty of encouragement from the usual suspects on here

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negativity be gone 😂😘

It is a SEX forum on a parenting site. The clue is in the name. Are parents not permitted to enjoy sex?

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Just when you think you've read it all, along comes some bloke desperate to share his made up fantasies with women on a parenting website ..

There’s a lot of them on here. Oversharing is a fetish in itself. Making shit up is just weird.

Theres a bloke on this board who is an ex of someone I know, the shit he’s made up on here. Sad really.

@OutnumberedByDogs thats the pros and cons of an anonymous internet forum! Make stuff up or be truthful…who can say? You may be making stuff up!!

We’re grown ups, able to engage with the threads we choose. But I feel it’s wrong to shame the OP just because his preferences don’t align with yours.

@OutnumberedByDogs totally agree. Made up freaky nonsense that some women enjoy encouraging

@TheOwlChronicles i don’t think there’s many women here. 😉

@OutnumberedByDogs It’s just grim. They spread into other boards too. Mumsnet now has a reputation for being a place for pervs and paedos.

@BrightLightsCalling you’re insinuations are pretty grim and unsubstantiated.

@Rogue1001MNer I can’t report what I didn’t read? How could that work? I don’t know what thread this is referring to. I can assure you however that I take the safeguarding of children very seriously.

Strange that the regulars never seem to see things. I call bullshit.

Pervs, paedos and the unholy trinity.