Been together for over 20 years. Had some tough times over the years and our sex life really dwindled to barely nothing. Things have thankfully been a lot better recently and we've found ourselves again. We had both lost confidence though and sex only started to happen again when we both had too much to drink! I thought that was it but a few more times later when not ridiculously drunk it's still happening.
So the problem is actual penetrative and keeping it in. I put it down to bad technique from us both but now I'm not sure. He is fully hard before and I'm definitely 'wet enough' but as soon as it goes in it slides out. It's quite frustrating and I don't know if it's me whose 'got bigger' inside with age or something? I've just started with perimenopause symptoms or I'm wondering if he is losing his erection slightly. He asks me to turn over and lie down on my tummy with legs as flat and close together as possible and that seems to work a bit better. The other night I was on top and it just comes out. We literally had to hold it in at the same time. Never had this problem before. Any suggestions? We are both mid 40's so not old!