Sex drive through roof early 40s

[Macmacma]

Last month or so my sex drive has absolutely gone through the roof. Married (for 12 years together for 16). Have two children 9 and 11- the last 11 years has been busy/ tiring etc- can’t lie have had weeks/ months where I really can’t be bothered with sex and generally my sex drive has been lower than husbands. Last couple of years sex has really reduced- he’d stopped instigating etc to the point I occasionally wondered if he might be sleeping with someone else.

Backstory done. Now aged 41, in the last 6 months or so I’ve started noticing other men (thought this was just being bored at home or soemthing tbh) but the last month or so my sex drive has gone through the roof. Literally want sex every day, multiple
times, thinking about it all. The. Time. Notice every single man who is appropriate age- so bin man, lifeguard, doctor, blokes in co op today. Imagining porn hub type scenarios (was last left in pool- imagined shagging life guard etc you get it).

I’ve also developed a crush on my boss-. I work hybrid and am torn between going in office to see him all (dunno if it’s wishful thinking/ imagination but I think I’ve noticed a couple of looks and a couple of things said) and staying at home and avoiding him as much as possible as I fear I might say soemthing/ act on it.

I feel like this is hormonal- feels like a strong urge….. I’m actually struggling to keep my mind on things…. And I’m a bit worried i might act on it……

Anyway has anyone had similar? Does it pass? Did you act on any of it? I want to just enjoy it but jees it feels ridiculous.

thanks for getting this far….

Just read your original post about noticing men. I'm the same! I was going through all the men at work this morning ( and trust me, there aren't many!!)

Bin men 🤮
Doctor 🤮
Teacher at school 😍😍

So weird!!

My partner has just sorted me out ( again!!) and I'm already ready for tonight's sesh!! 😳😳

Think maybe I need a 24 hour fuck buddy!! Trouble is.. things could go downhill rapidly by Thursday!! 🤷‍♀️

God this has literally just happened to me too. Literally over night a switch has turned on. I've been off sex for about 10 years and now I can't stop thinking about it! Crazy! I'm 43.
Just ordered some sexy undies and a toy!

@Ripe it's crazy! What toy have you ordered? 😉

Just a vibrator for now 😉..can't wait for it to arrive! Had one in the cupboard for years but threw it out not long ago as thought my sex drive had gone forever 😅

Oh my goodness. Just stumbled across this thread. Now finding it hard to concentrate on the film I was supposed to be watching.

@PotteringPondering 🤣 focus!!

Haha! I can't concentrate on anything at the moment 😅

This also happened to me when I hit my early 50s. It came (literally) out of nowhere and has been quite difficult to manage at times. I now have a wide and varied selection of toys that help matters. At 1 point I was late everywhere that I went because I was otherwise engaged! None of my close mates seem to have this affliction and in fact I'm mocked regularly and am on the receiving end of any vibrator/sex memes going around! They have at least promised to remove the many boxes from under my bed if I die suddenly!

Love that 😄

@MovingonfromMartin oh my goodness is SOOOO funny! 🤣

Well I'm heading that way unfortunately. It's so distracting! All I'm thinking about, is when or where the next O coming from!

I’ve been like this always so I really hope this doesn’t happen to me, genuinely think it would be awful 😭

To be honest, I'm on day 5 and have had enough. OH couldn't manage it last night and I'm feeling so pent up and horny! Got to sit through a morning of uni talks for DD's offer day and I really don't know how I'm going to manage to focus!

@Rubyhaunt yes I am not best pleased now. It's not usual for me to want to be f**d day and night. Very tiring!

I have great sympathy with you @Runaround50 it's not fun to deal with at all. People (ie men) think it's wonderful but I was googling cancer of the clitoris and brain tumours because I was so worried about how manically horny I was feelingly. Turns out it quite common, well it's mentioned a lot on MN anyway! I can suggest wearing tight jeans and let the mind drift.....

@MovingonfromMartin do you think it's hormonal? I've just upped my patch dose as I felt my libido
was low, but this is ridiculous!

Are you more settled now with it all?

Mine came out of nowhere and I'm trying to control it and not pester dh; I've always had a low libido and dh has just had to put up with it so I know how annoying it is to be asked for sex every few days. It's now flipped right over and we're doing it several times a week.

We had a bottle of lube that lasted around 10 years; it ran out recently so we bought another and it's half gone already 😂

I have taken to reading those saucy fanfics because it's on my mind almost all the time and is worst in the middle of my cycle - ie, right now!

@MyMachineAndMe read literotica and lush stories. They are ace!

Although if you keep tickling that itch, it can get really extra itchy! So sometimes better to stay away from the erotic words as they lead to erotic thoughts and then moments in laybys....😊

Yep... I was about 35 and it's still going strong now quite few years on. I've enjoyed a load of experimentation and fun and look forward to more!

Happened to me at 45 and lasted about a year. I didn’t have a clue what was happening to me at the time so had no idea it was linked to menopause.

Sadly, I was living in a sexless marriage (and had been for many years). Yup, you guessed it…I sought out other male attention. Totally out of character, as I wouldn’t have done this normally! Led to a massive can of worms being opened and a lot of soul searching. Made me realise, overall, what I was missing and had been missing through a marriage that was ‘platonic’ and dead. I filed for divorce. Totally changed my life!!! Had these hormones not kicked off, I’d have still been plodding along.

Be careful!!

Oh, and I’m now 51 and still very sexual (probably because that side of me has been switched on by someone who is very passionate and affectionate) but the raging horniness did settle after a year.

O my - sounds exciting!

Time spent thinking about sex is surely not wasted. After all, what else would we be doing? Thinking about work, thinking about what groceries we need (I think there's enough cat food, but maybe I'd better get some potatoes)? Paying bills, ordering new tyres for the car, that sort of thing. Compared to which I'd much rather spend my days lost in saucy reverie with my fingers slipped inside my waistband.

Wowee life changing. Honestly a few weeks back I was having thoughts of similar. Fortunately hubby seems to be embracing it 🤣
did it work out better in the end? The not plodding along? I hope so x