Sex drive through roof early 40s

[Macmacma]

Last month or so my sex drive has absolutely gone through the roof. Married (for 12 years together for 16). Have two children 9 and 11- the last 11 years has been busy/ tiring etc- can’t lie have had weeks/ months where I really can’t be bothered with sex and generally my sex drive has been lower than husbands. Last couple of years sex has really reduced- he’d stopped instigating etc to the point I occasionally wondered if he might be sleeping with someone else.

Backstory done. Now aged 41, in the last 6 months or so I’ve started noticing other men (thought this was just being bored at home or soemthing tbh) but the last month or so my sex drive has gone through the roof. Literally want sex every day, multiple
times, thinking about it all. The. Time. Notice every single man who is appropriate age- so bin man, lifeguard, doctor, blokes in co op today. Imagining porn hub type scenarios (was last left in pool- imagined shagging life guard etc you get it).

I’ve also developed a crush on my boss-. I work hybrid and am torn between going in office to see him all (dunno if it’s wishful thinking/ imagination but I think I’ve noticed a couple of looks and a couple of things said) and staying at home and avoiding him as much as possible as I fear I might say soemthing/ act on it.

I feel like this is hormonal- feels like a strong urge….. I’m actually struggling to keep my mind on things…. And I’m a bit worried i might act on it……

Anyway has anyone had similar? Does it pass? Did you act on any of it? I want to just enjoy it but jees it feels ridiculous.

thanks for getting this far….

I'm 45 and it's the highest it's ever been. I have always been on the higher end of an average sex drive but this is ridiculous. I can't seem to be satisfied for longer than a few hours. It's really quite hellish unless you're lucky enough to have someone to enjoy yourself with. DH just can't and toys work for a while but it feels insatiable at the moment.

Goodness. There are loads of us! Is reassuring. Yes honestly can’t remember ever feeling this sexually charged and distracted by it all (maybe when I was a teenager but probs didn’t have quite so many things to have to think about then).

Interesting times. What a great thing to happen when you least expect it. Bet the poor partners don't know what's hit them 😉

There is also some evidence that coming off hormonal contraceptives can allow the libido to return.

Enjoy every moment!

Will do thank you!

Oh yes, me too. I'm 43 and been like a dog on heat for months; I want it so much that dh has had to turn me down. Oh how the tables have turned!

I’m jealous that you’ve got a husband that you can go to, I’ve just got me

I went through this before descending into perimenopause. It's really common, it's down to a surge in your oestrogen levels and your body throwing everything at a last chance to get pregnant. I remember an out of control libido and craving sex all the time to my sex drive totally falling off a cliff six months later. The extremes were extraordinary.

Even if your periods are erratic, be careful and use contraception! (Unless you want a surprise pregnancy).

Me too ☹️

I crave sex constantly. And DH was very happy with our pre-sex surge once a week but it doesn't touch the sides (no pun intended).

I don't want to be a sex pest but I just want him to kiss me passionately and give me a good seeing-to...most of the time!!!

It's incredibly frustrating. And the more I look into it, the more I realise that it's not just me but very few people talk about this issue. I'm glad I'm not alone tho

Snap. 45. Came off the coil about 6 months ago and been like this for a week. Off the charts. I probably should get back on some form of contraception but really don't want to get rid of it ( although it's very distracting) haven't got much done today 🤣 I feel like I'm 17 again ☺️

😃 this is exactly it 😘

And yes, people not talking about this. I asked my very honest friend who is a couple of years older and she said yup it’s defo a thing. I guess just got to ride it out and spend a little at love honey, because the husband is not on the same page unfortunately. And tbh there aren’t the hours in the day to deal with this 😂

🙋🏻‍♀️ another insatiable 45 year old, wearing out my lovely DP who doesn’t know what’s hit him!! Are there any other surprises to come about getting older as a woman?

I wish my dp had a sex drive to help but he's the opposite and happy with no sex. I get turned down frequently. If I was single I'm sure I could find a fwb. If I was with a partner who could deliver I'd at least be getting some but I'm in a relationship with someone who just cannot come near to satisfying this at the moment. It's far from good

@motherofkevinnotperry can you talk to your partner about how unhappy it is making you? I read a thread where it was the guy considering paying for sex and everyone said nooo talk to your partner, he did and she made a GP appointment as she was concerned, no pressure from him he just said how it was affecting him.

I’m 47 and have had this for about 2 years. I think about sex a LOT and I wonder if this is how men feel. Every reasonable looking guy I meet over about age 28 I’m assessing him, flirting, checking him out. Like a pervert lol. I deliberately do provocative things eg wearing see through clothing. My DH is happy but I secretly crave the attention of non DH men. Like a teenager!

Yup, got to 41 and sex drive went through the roof. DH was delighted. It was a lot of fun, and I got pregnant complete and utter surprise. It was like my body went into full this is your last chance love go for it. I'm 49 now with a 6 yr old menopausal and with the crappiest sex life we've ever had, me mainly not DH (DH is being very good about this, we're working on it).
So enjoy it I say!!
I'm hoping for another yee-ha moment once I get through this dry patch ( pun intended)!

Friend is Bi and she now has 2 GFs and a man she sees occasionally, she is 42 and divorced for 2 years.

I have an FWB popping over tomorrow, hoping he doesn't cancel 🤣 I've been sex texting him all weekend to make sure he is keen 🤣🤣🤣.

I had this last summer.. a surge in hormones I think. I needed to come several times a day.. it was ridiculous! Was just constantly thinking about my partner touching my clit!!

Enjoy !

Without a doubt, all of your DH'S/DP'S are fairly fortunate! Must be awful actually, suffering without an obvious release, apart from sorting yourself out. From a Google, It can get quite severe. Guys re lucky in this regard, I suppose.

@DGConsultant it’s not the worst thing in the world!! And it would be rude not to enjoy it while it lasts 😜

Yes this is it! I haven’t started wearing see through stuff but yup I have the same body but my body shaming/ confidence issues seem to have reduced because I guess I don’t have time for that to hold me back 😃

Mine lasted from age 46 to 52. Exhausting it was!
Boy, I regret nothing though. Great memories for my old age.

Definitely hormone related. I was the same a few weeks after my last period. Constantly thinking about it day and night!

Then it dropped off a cliff!

Last summer it returned!
Within 4 weeks it disappeared.
Yesterday it appeared out of nowhere.
Today, I couldn't care less.

What can I say? Weird!

So reassuring to hear thank you. Think I might have been ovulating during this mad couPle of weeks. It’s still a thing but
muxh more
managable now. We’ll see what happens next round 😂 might be manageable every few weeks. Not sure if I could cope full time 😂😂😂