MNHQ here - an update on moderation for the Sex topic

[YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet]

Hi everyone.

We've posted on Site Stuff today to explain some changes we're making to how we moderate this board. It’s become clear from recent discussions that we needed a rethink about our approach and so we’re going to introduce some rules to help ensure that posters can get the support and advice they need from the board and that everyone has clear expectations of the behaviour we expect.

Posters must be at least 18 years of age - Mumsnet has always been a site for adults but we want to be crystal clear about this for this board.

The board is text based - we don’t allow NSFW (not safe for work) images.

We don’t allow links to any NSFW sites or personal profiles on other sites

We will not tolerate creepy or harassing behaviour in particular from male posters

We’ve also had concerns raised about the ongoing ‘sex chat threads’ including the risks involved with allowing users to PM each other. Our approach has always been to allow consenting adults to make their own judgement when it comes to what they’ll share and, broadly, that is still the case across the site - but we acknowledge there are additional vulnerabilities here that we ought to consider.

With that in mind, we will no longer allow users to ask for or to offer to send PMs for the purposes of sex chat. For one thing, we can’t guarantee that the person you’re chatting with is who they say they are and we can’t realistically safeguard these kind of off-board discussions. We’ve looked at the moderation principles of similar boards on other sites and this is indeed the policy on several others.

As with everything, we’ll continue to monitor the situation and we hope these new rules will go some way to reassure you. If anyone has further questions, please post on the Site Stuff thread and we’ll do our best to answer them.

Thanks.

No, I'm saying "creepy or harassing behaviour" is not acceptable - on an equal level - whatever your gender. I don't see the need for a distinction in which mods are perpetuating a view that men start from the presumed position of aggressor.

I think you may have just illustrated my point.

@b4now your point will be illustrated when female Mumsnetters start bombarding male users of the site with sexually harassing pms. As you are well aware, this will never happen.

Stop using equality as a stick to beat women with. Women's sexual boundaries are not an infringement of your human rights.

I think about it as equity rather than equality.

I don't think it's unfair on sex topics (or many others come to that) to have a bias towards women to achieve balance.

I do think it's unfair to exclude men from the conversation purely because they're men though

I'm out. Men are clearly not welcome here.

Anybody who believes equality or equity is about bias towards one group or aonther, or that 'balance' is achieved by discrimination, there's no point in arguing further.

Equity is literally bias to achieve true equality.

Women are at greater risk of abuse by men than men are from women especially when it comes to sex.

I don't think that's hard to understand or accept.

You don't seem to understand the literal meaning of equity...

Equity recognizes that each person has different circumstances and allocates the exact resources and opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome.

I'm out

Good. Take your victim complex elsewhere.

Bye 👋

Yup.

Good work MN 👍

Um.... Do you actually think that women on Mumsnet are going to think that misogynists leaving this site is a... bad thing?

@YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet

1. "Posters must be at least 18 years of age - Mumsnet has always been a site for adults but we want to be crystal clear about this for this board."

1. "We will not tolerate creepy or harassing behaviour in particular from male posters"

1. How do you know posters are over 18? When I signed up I don't remember anything that would identify my age.

1. How do you know they're male posters? See my response to 1.

Thank you

You go on holiday for two weeks and all hell breaks loose. Take it normal service had now resumed?