How long does sex need to last to be great sex?

[Iloveabaconbutty]

A non-serious but I hope interesting question.

Not for the first time DW and I were recently reflecting, having just had a very enjoyable and mutually satisfying sex session which lasted a maximum of 15 minutes (not that I was timing) that sex doesn't have to last hours and hours with endless amounts of orgasms to be really, really good.

I think we were both grew into young adulthood with the impression that bringing each other to the heights of ecstacy all night long is the ultimate even though after a lot of years together we know that's not necessarily the case - or usually very practical!

That's not to say that occasional lazy, unhurried morning lie-in sex isn't wonderful or that quickies - a rarity these days - aren't fun, and indulging in extended foreplay from time to time isn't very, very pleasant. But, at least in our experience, some of the best sex can last 10-20 minutes, tops.

Do other people agree?

The best sex is 45-60 minutes for me.

God yes. I'd say we do around 15 to 20 minutes from first tongue to final collapse.

For the first time in my life I'm with a man who orgasms quickly. It is absolutely awesome. I mean, he only orgasms when I let him 😉but it's amazing. 'Banging away like an armed policeman' [copyright Alexei Sayle] is hugely overrated imo.

Having said that... I did have a joyous connection with a man who could make the whole experience of sex last all day if he felt like it without coming. It was a special experience, a glorious banquet. But I could imagine being with him long term could have been really difficult tbh. I pretty much always got thrush after seeing him too 😬

Actually... now I think about it I believe we in fact take longer... more like 30 minutes plus. It goes in a flash...

We devote the last hour of our day to each other and that works well for us. I wouldn’t mind a short session every now and then but tbh it probably wouldn’t be long enough for me to climax. My body prefers a slow burn!

My current bf is the longest I’ve ever had and I’m 100% enjoying it right now. But I reckon in a year or so, I’ll be wanting 15mins! Not complaining right now though

The best sex I've ever had was with a man who had delayed ejaculation due to antidepressant medication. I like to take my time.

My first boyfriend was a lazy git,as quick as possible deeply unsatisfying for me. I.was naive and didn't know. My ex (not first boyfriend) was a more generous with his affection and time. It was usually an hour if being quick and sometimes 2h was a bit of a shock to the system. A very pleasant one. Happy days. If u bith happy then that fine.

Some of the more explosive experiences have been quite quick, but they often happen after we've been exciting one another or egging each other on for a while. Equally, we have long sessions sometimes where he gives me lots of oral and then we move on to intercourse. We even stop for a cup of coffee and a biscuit sometimes and then do some more. It makes you thirsty and gives you an appetite!

I can bang away for over an hour if needed or make myself cum within 15 minutes. Depends on who I am with as women like different things so having the ability to meet her needs irrespective of what they are is a bonus.

I don't think the time has any bearing on how good it is... I've had quick sex which has been amazing because we were just desperate to get at each other.... and equally wonderful hours of edging and teasing...

I agree with @PinotPony the time doesn’t really matter to me. It’s about the enjoyment. I had one partner where both of us would climax very quickly and usually at the same time. It was very enjoyable sex though! And long sessions can be amazing too. Either way can work very well!

No more than 15 mins, 10 even better.

My FB use to make it last for HOURS, stopping and starting. I hated it.

That's my DH! Since he has been on an SSRI (antidepressant and anxiety meds) he has been able to go for ages without ejaculating. I don't need hours and hours but multiple orgasms are good and 10 minutes is not going to get me there.

Me too! My current BF of 4 months has delayed ejaculation due to meds. Even if he doesn't cum he's incredibly generous and gives me multiple orgasms every single time - oral, fingering, nipples, everything. After trial and error we worked out he's most likely to cum in the mornings/midday. So we can have a long long session at night which makes me sleep very deeply 😀 and then after a bit of oral to wake me up in the morning, a quickie will finish him off.
I have NEVER been as sexually satisfied as I am with this guy, despite him being smaller than average! It really is technique rather than equipment 🤣🤣🤣

Great sex for me can last half a day or five minutes. What makes it great is the vibe, feeling and connection. Overall though, my DW and I like to take our time. The 2 minute bunny-style speed-humping towards a quick ejaculation is boring.

The longer the better for me. Last time 3 years ago, Jesus Christ, 4 hours, water breaks in the middle. She came 3 times, I didn't come at all, but it was magic making her come. Exhausted physically the next day, sore leg mussels, you name It, It was aching. Great fun though...

@DGConsultant water breaks in the middle.
At first I read that to mean her waters broke in the middle! That was our situation when we knew our second child was on the way!!

I literally mean taking a break to drink glasses of water. Oh wow, your waters breaking during sex, scary!

I do love it when men can come on and get people talking about their sex lives so easily. Warms the cockles it does

@DGConsultant It was fine. Appropriate really as that's how it all began nine months before! I think it's one traditional way of starting labour off although that wasn't particularly our intention at the time. About twelve hours later a healthy, bouncing baby boy arrived!

@gamerchick @DGConsultant

and the mussels 🤣

15 mins for me

@Iloveabaconbutty , excellent. Wonderful symmetry. I've heard that sex can indeed induce/begin child birth! Glad all turned out positively!

@gamerchick this board is fab! 💗I’ve learned so much about how guys think, and the pressures they feel with regard to their relationships, performance etc.

Yeah, 10-15 minutes tops. We both get where we need to go. We’re not 20 somethings any more with nothing to do all day but shag. Small kids. Shit to do. These days anything resembling “epic” is more likely to just make us sore, bored, and likely as not give us a yeast infection.