How long does sex need to last to be great sex?

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A non-serious but I hope interesting question.

Not for the first time DW and I were recently reflecting, having just had a very enjoyable and mutually satisfying sex session which lasted a maximum of 15 minutes (not that I was timing) that sex doesn't have to last hours and hours with endless amounts of orgasms to be really, really good.

I think we were both grew into young adulthood with the impression that bringing each other to the heights of ecstacy all night long is the ultimate even though after a lot of years together we know that's not necessarily the case - or usually very practical!

That's not to say that occasional lazy, unhurried morning lie-in sex isn't wonderful or that quickies - a rarity these days - aren't fun, and indulging in extended foreplay from time to time isn't very, very pleasant. But, at least in our experience, some of the best sex can last 10-20 minutes, tops.

Do other people agree?

About 20 mins

When people post the time, do they mean the whole event, so from first touch and kiss to ejaculation? Or just the intercourse bit? For us a really good session is probably around an hour, being fairly quick around 30 mins (I mean the whole event) Both can be amazing

I like it over as quick as possible 🤣

Yeah 20-30 min the whole event. About 10 min for sex. I'm too tired for any more!!

Just qualifying my previous post, the 4 hour sexual spectacular was very much a one off event. Realistically, half an hour to an hour/2 hours, is probably the ideal.

Roughly about the length of an ad break in Vera 👍🏻

Never seen so many men on a thread! 🤣

Hats off to the pp who said they dedicated an hour to each other every day. I could not be remotely arsed tbh!

I’m happy with half an hour, if it’s quicker then so be it. The thought of an epic 2hr session these days just doesn’t appeal - not least because it wouldn’t happen with teens in the house 😒

@FfeminyddCymraeg I have older DC too! We’ve always been open with them about needing time to be together, they know that they can knock on the door if they need us but they respect our privacy.

If it's quick then around 10-20 mins, if it's foreplay ect then 1hr

Totally depends on the connection with my partner TBH.

An urgent quickie can be as satisfying as a pleasurable slow fuck where I am being edged for a king period of time.

How long does sex need to last to be great sex?

12 minutes tops, including foreplay. If you're a young spring chicken with not much else to do tho, crack on for hours.

A lot of Jackanory Jacks on this post

Before the toddler wakes up. So 5 mins once a month? FML

Oh God I can't be giving hours to this nonsense! Surely 15 mins should be enough for both parties to be done and dusted?

Around 5 minutes is best for me. Any less and I can't finish mentally composing my shopping list. Any longer and I forget most of it before I can log into Sainsbury's.

As soon as I have got where I need to be then I get bored and want it done. Can't be arsed searching for multiple orgasms, I'm in my 40s and have got better things to be doing. DH likes to take his time but he's very very highly sexed 15 years together and he'd still go everynight if he could. 15 mins twice a week is plenty thank you 😒

God I can't be bothered with anything lasting half hour or more. He sees to me, I see to him and then a few minutes thrusting and Bob's your uncle. 15 mins, tops.

What’s with all the weird, negative posts all of a sudden??

Are they negative? Seems like they possibly got more reality based which is positive if anything?

@Palmfrond up until a certain point yesterday there was a bunch of guys and girls discussing the topic with each other, like an easy conversation. Then the general vibe changed from sex as a pleasurable, loving act to something to be endured as quickly as possible, during ad breaks on tv or while doing the shopping list. A poster has suggested that some people were lying.

To me that feels negative! As I was one of the earlier posters! I love this Sex Board, I always prioritise my sex life with my DP, we enjoy trying new things together and this has been a great place to learn. The posters are friendly, not sleazy, and some pretty wonderful advice and support has been given on a number of topics, from serious and frivolous, since I’ve been here.

I put the boiling water on the teabag and then nip back upstairs.
So about three minutes I think.

I think compatibility is key. I like it quick and DH likes it slow, my preference is usually 5-10 minutes, whereas he's happy for more than half an hour. I get bored waiting for him tbh! 🙈 I'm a wham-bam-thankyou-mam type of lady.

And that’s generous. Some of what has been described here is repulsive 😂

I always prioritise my sex life with my DP, we enjoy trying new things together

Same here but it doesn't take all night (or morning or day, depending on when we do it). I can't imagine what people are actually doing for it to take 2 hours.

@MyMachineAndMe that’s absolutely fine, if that works in your relationship and you’re both satisfied. I just don’t get the sudden vitriol aimed here. It should hardly be a newsflash that people on the Sex Board enjoy sex. Someone just described a post as ‘repulsive’ !!