Where is it

[Crestaq]

I literally don't think I have a clit! I bought a clit suction toy and it just went on my clitoral hood. I have large ish labia (that I like).
i always thought urine came out at the top, but it turns out that's where my clit should be. All this time.
I just don't look like the diagrams. What kind of expert can you go to and say where is my clit? 🤔

it tends to swell and become more noticeable when you are aroused. Perhaps try that.

I have looked when aroused. I cum by hard pressure on that general area so I guess that makes sense that's where it is.
I'm 45! Just always thought I was peeing from that hole.
In diagrams it looks a bit like a very small pea....

Apparently women have a foreskin

Sorry I didn’t mean to assume. There are some women who’s clit can appear a bit flat which makes it harder to locate. For most it does look like a pea. (I’m bisexual) The suction toy might not work for you. I think it’s made for women who have an average size clit. I would recommend a vibrator myself. I don’t know if you’re there yet but I know some women going through the change say it tends to shrink. I don’t know which you mean but your urethra is much lower than your clitoris and then underneath that is your vagina.

I'm bisexual and seen quite a few different ones.
Sometimes it's all a bit buried so pulling back the hood is good.
Once aroused it should feel more solid than anywhere else and the more you play the harder it will become.
And I say this honestly I've never seen anyone's bits look like they do on the diagrams x

Every vag is different, when you put the toy on your clit, did you feel any sensation? I have only learnt things over the past few years about the clit, it’s basically similar to a tiny penis.

Try using the index finger of your non dominant hand to gently pull back the hood, then swirl the suction in circles around your clitoris. Divine!

I put the toy in different places. Its one that goes inside the vagina and vibrates and curves around to suck on the clit.
Well, my clit must be very far away compared to some because the suckered wasn't up there.
Then I used just the sucker on my clitoral hood area. I did cum. But it stretched th3 hood even more and it looked massive for ages!
Probably need to hold the hood back and put it underneath. But there's nothing else there....

I actually can't wait to have sex again I am going to really let him.focus on it now and even maybe enjoy oral now I know where he can concentrate is for pleasure not piss!
Revelatory!

If it’s hard for him to access your clit easily, maybe try slightly parting your labia/lifting up your clitoral hood, so he’s able to reach better.

Mine is extremely hooded as well. It's something that really bothers me. How the hell do you pull back the hood if you're all wet down there? There's literally no way to grip the hood so it stays out of the way.

Myn is tucked in, so I’m not familiar with hooded clits. I’ve actually just googled and there seems to be a big variation in clits in general. Would parting the labia help?

@Violet90 it's like it has a hoodie on but the hood doesn't go back very far to expose it especially if there is any sort of wetness.

@Violet90 parting the labia is no problem at all.

One chat friend filmed herself having a pee. so that she could see where everything was.
In shower, and squatted down with full bladder, let go.
You could do similar when masturbating.
No I did not send similar pics of myself!

Can you not just slide your finger up from below the clit so that the hood is pushed upwards and out the way? Then, if you keep the finger on the clit, the hood can't come back down over it.

Or just stimulate the clit through the hood.

Do bear in mind that a clitoris actually looks like this… so can be stimulated through the labia and g spot. It’s not all about the nub that sticks out!

So is the clit mostly covered by the hood? I wonder if you pull upwards just above the clit, that would expose more of it. I also didn’t realise some women had really large clits.

@Violet90 it does expose more of it but it's a two hand job! Could do with an extra hand tbh

@Violet90 I am envious of women with larger clits. At least they can see what they are dealing with

Some of them can resemble mini penises which I know clits are very similar too. That’s what makes us all unique though 🙂