Becoming more adventurous

[Rainyrunner]

Been married for over 15 years but recently lost some weight, become more toned and generally learned to like myself more.
Sex has always been very vanilla but I'm wanting to step it up a notch having found a new enjoyment for sex and my body which I'd not experienced before.
This is new territory for both of us, so any tips on how to get started?!

There are two different types of adventure.
One is the sensations, racy lingerie and 'toys' and gadgets. These may stimulate feelings more. They do not lead you far.
The other which perhaps applies as you have been married 15 yrs is to stimulate the soul. For the both of you, deeper feelings and ambitions that are within you both.
Many ambitions are started by a wave of confidence, Which you describe. A friend joined a gym after divorce, is now physically fitter, stronger and looks toned. Had a full wax over the pubic area and developed more confidence in many areas of her life. And of course no one knows she is smooth. She gets far more attention.

I’d go to Ann summers or online somewhere like Love honey and get some toys and light bondage stuff (if that’s what you’re into), sexy lingerie - men love it. Start off with a few things and see where it leads. I believe there are some quizzes you can do to establish kinks etc if too shy to discuss it face to face! Enjoy! I’ve just started a new relationship so great time to become more adventurous and reinvent myself!

Talk it through with your DP, have a Google, talking, where, toys, lingerie etc, sex clubs all sorts of possibilities...keep nothing off the table to begin with and just see what lights a fire for either of you, before you know it you'll have a right royal list of sexy stuff to fill your boots up with and by talking together you get further quicker, good luck!!