Lube

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Wife won’t contemplate using lube, thinks it’s for old people,thinking about buying some and just seeing what happens, what do people think about using lube

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Use it, use it, use it!!!

Try flavoured/tingling lube from lovehoney or Ann Summers. It much better than the bog standard stuff, but then we have it for toys and stuff as well as PIV sex.

Also different types/brands provide differing sensations, I find water based gives the best sensation however it can need warming up whereas you never have that problem with silicone.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/lubes-essentials/lubricants/organic-lubricants/p/sliquid-organics-natural-gel-lubricant-255ml/18167.html

www.amazon.co.uk/pjur-Original-Lubricant-250-ml/dp/B000WI8ZY8/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=pjur&qid=1670855159&sr=8-1

So the first one is my ultimate favourite and the second is the one that doesn't make my wife jump out of her skin cos it's cold.

Side note my wife wasn't convinced at first but checks I've packed it when we go on holiday now!

But never use oil based lube with some toys as it will melt them.

Highly recommend yesyesyes.org - natural oil and water based lube. No nasties, good for the skin and doesn't taste horrible.

I've never found a need for it for regular sex. Never known a partner who's not got naturally wet enough (usually have the opposite problem) with appropriate foreplay. Is it possible that your DP is hinting that she'd prefer more foreplay to just reaching for the lube instead?

I don't need it for sex, I get wet enough. I only use it for toys that I can't get in easily.

As you get older things change and if you are one of the lucky few that never needs it, brilliant, just be open in case like with the rest of us it keeps the wheels turning.

Fairly sure we have plenty foreplay,

Assuming you are not using condoms or "rubbery" toys I'd strong recommend coconut oil.

It last longer than water based lube and doesn't feel claggy like other non,-water lubes.

It also tastes nice and natural.

Silk lubricant - just Google it. It is amazing

Oh I love it, we used to use it with my ex partner and it’s definitely not for old people. Get some kind of themed one if she’s concerned - I don’t know some kind of tingling one etc

Night away soon, bought some that says it’s for general massage use too so just going to try and massage it into the interesting bits

If you feel you would benefit from it, use it. We vary from being moister and dryer as part of our cycle. Go for what works for you.

It sounds like your wife could do with reassurance that it's not just for old people (it's not). Is it possible she's feeling like you're criticising her a bit by suggesting lube, like you're suggesting she's not getting wet enough or it's not pleasurable for you? Make sure she feels reassured about why you are doing it.

Completely agree! It's such a shame so many people think lube is for people that "need it" if they are dry or whatever, but actually it just makes everything SO much more pleasurable. Also think it used to be embarrassing to buy those bright bottles of durex lube or carry them in your liquids when travelling lol but now so many discrete lubes on the shelves! Has anyone tried Maude organic lube? I've heard good things but haven't used an "organic" lube before...

Sliquid have an organic lube, it was the first we bought and in my opinion the best.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/lubes-essentials/lubricants/organic-lubricants/p/sliquid-organics-natural-gel-lubricant-255ml/18167.html

Sliquid is vegan friendly too, if that’s a consideration you need to take into account

Lube is great. Liquid silk lube has made many things much, much better for us and they weren't bad before. Also available via Love Honey and other outlets.

I find different lubes can have different impacts on sensation. ID silicone is great but Sliquid is the best IMHO.

Get a few small bottles and try them out?

Love lube, it's amazing, go fora plant based one, not synthetic, it's awesome.

Just to bring a downer to the party but I found I ended up with thrush with certain lubes and discovered it was likely to be the glycerine. After trying several different brands that were glycerine free but still caused a reaction, switched to YesYesYes Water Based and have no problems now.