New man on the smaller side

[PickledRat]

My new man from OLD has a smaller than average penis, probs about 4 inches. He is good with his mouth/finger and makes me orgasm. Having said that, PIV is not great, I’ve never been one to cum from penetration but I do like the feeling. Do you think it would be worth asking him to use a strap on? I’ve never done that but wouldn’t mind giving it a go, I don’t want to cause offence so I’m wondering how I should introduce the idea.

@ScottishZoe I've thought about this imbalance too. Do you think there's any socially acceptable way for a woman to find out early on roughly where on a sliding scale her date is? I'm a man, so I guess I'm on the easier side of this, but it does seem unfair. Maybe it should be OK to ask men about this upfront?

@MoonbeamsGlittering Indeed, some women I know ask for dick pics but that doesn't fit right with me, and contradicts our messaging that men shouldn't send dick pics.
Should be acceptable to ask but men could always lie, which is likely if they are on the smaller side.

In another forum, a few of us women dream of a world with a public size database and all men are measured when they come of age. That would at least allow us to look up a potential date and make a decision.

I think there's a difference between unsolicited dick pics and consensual ones sent during chats.

@ScottishZoe Wow, that's a novel idea. I can see how it would be fair in a way, even though I'm sure many would disagree!

Can I ask what the other forum is? I've only found these discussions here and on Reddit, and I find the format of Reddit unhelpful. (If you'd rather not say then that's fair enough, of course.)

@MoonbeamsGlittering Have PM'd you

Personally I don’t think it’s fair to criticise a woman for not wanting a guys who’s small down below. Sex is important in a relationship and needs to be right for all concerned, personalities need to gel so do genitals.

There are plenty of men on the smaller side enjoying relationships.. There's much more to a relationship to the size of men and women's parts.

So how many men do you have to test out before you find the right size? What about his personality and the way he treats you?

I totally agree there are far more important things in a relationship, it’s just on small (no pun intended) aspect of a good healthy relationship. That being said with the amount of comments in this thread alone it seems it’s a deal breaker with many people. Hopefully more people can see past this issue when it comes to dating and continuing with a relationship.

Why is it OK for a woman to put up with unsatisfying sex? Because they're the ones who end up with the rough deal. There are other elements to a relationship but for those who enjoy the feeling of being satisfied and for who sex is important, it could be a problem. And it's nothing to do with a woman having a large or loose vagina before anyone says that. A 2 inch pecker isn't going to satisfy anyone.

So how many men do you have to test out before you find the right size? What about his personality and the way he treats you?

^ I have a high sexual libido and it's important to me. They could treat me wonderfully but I wouldn't compromise on sexual compatibility.

I think all the issues raised here are completely valid and prove that we all have to seek a relationship that suits the individual, this can be sexual compatibility, personality, intellectual compatibility, belief or No beliefs systems, etc etc.

I do feel sorry for people vilified for their choices about penis size and on the other end vagina size too, individual choice of a partner is vital for a relationship to survive.

what happens if they suddenly cant have sex any more do you leave them and try and find someone else who meets all your needs? You wont find stability and happiness changing relationship all the time?

lots of men put up with unsatisfying sex or a woman who dosent want to have sex?

Strangely enough if your partner went down with a bad illness and couldnt perform, sex would be the last thing on your mind. Its not the be all and end all of life and nobody ever died because they couldnt get it.

😂this cant be real?

And what would you say to any male relation of your (son , brother, nephew , whatever ) who was born with a 2 inch “pecker” ?

Only if worked both ways and men could check out how slack a woman is, that would be equality

Shallow or what!?

what happens if they suddenly cant have sex any more do you leave them and try and find someone else who meets all your needs? You wont find stability and happiness changing relationship all the time?

Yes I'd have to leave. I have no desire to marry or ever live with a man again. Relationship wise I enjoy monogamy in separate households, shared hobbies and date nights. with the right size penis I can enjoy piv orgasms. Id rather be alone then feel unfulfilled. Everyone has different wants from relationships.

Sexless marriage can be devastating.
Don't underestimate the impact that physical intimacy can have

My hubby is quite small. I enjoy sex with him as he is very attentive but honestly I miss the sensation from being filled and stretched that I have experienced with previous partners. I make up for it with a good sized vibrator. Hubby is quite happy to participate. I introduced it as a bit of extra spice if you know what I mean. I wouldn't ever tell him he's not everything I would wish him to be.