HELP WITH NEW MAN- how to please

[GucciPearls]

first time posting on the sex topic..

So I’ve started dating a new man after my 7 year relationship broke down with my DDs dad. I’ve gained weight so I’m not entirely body confident but I really like this new man we’ve been on a few dates, speak all the time and I’m staying over at his house Saturday night after a party we are attending.

any tips on how to please him or how to be body confident?
Any men on here able to tell me what a man likes? I no all men are different but I really like him and don’t want to disappoint!

He must have an idea of your body shape already, so Im sure it wont be a massive shock when you get naked.

For me, confidence is the sexiest thing ever, and theres nothing worse than someone who wants to turn the lights off and hide under the covers. Low light yes, underwear you feel sexy in, and a couple of drinks to relax you, and just go for it.

He will no doubt be nervous too, men get worried about performance, size etc so it works both ways!

Good luck!

Agree with PP, I love women who are confident about themselves, size is irrelevant really.
most men will probably like oral, personally I like a woman who uses gets her hands everywhere, chest , back, bum, balls etc.

Most men like boobs as well, so wear something with easy access,

he will be just as nervous as you, if not more so as there is no where to hide if you don’t have an erection

Enjoy !

he just hasn’t seen my stomach,
so give it as much confidence as possible?

Like I said, he must have an idea. A lot of confidence for me is thinking "fuck it, lets go". I know its easier said than done, but if he is not appreciative, then he shouldn't be there anyway!

I hear you sister! My stomach really bothers me.

The several guys I've slept with post XH really don't seem to care about it as much as I do. My wobbly large overhang that is covered in stretch marks is kissed, caressed, stroked and teased all over.

Style it out girl. You've got this!

I'd say 'fake it till you make it' on the body confidence front. Not to the point where you're not being you, but there's literally nothing you can do about it in the moment so just try and relax and enjoy it! The other thing to bear in mind is to put your pleasure at the top of the queue - the orgasm gap tells us he'll be fine, so make sure you get off too. Obviously it has to be mutual, but hopefully you see what I mean!

As a man I day enjoy yourself

Sex for me is good only if it is good for her as well.

Go slowly, ease in to it. Men like to be teased a bit (IME). Wear something you feel hot in.

I meant "I say enjoy yourself", Feel happy and he will be happy (we need an edit function on here to correct my bad spelling)

Be you! He hasn't suggested you stay over because he wants to evaluate your body against a scale of beauty. He wants to be with you.

The only other bit of advice would be don't drink too much at the party because you are nervous.

Please yourself - tell him what you like, like less, and don't like.

Everything else will fall into place.

This ^^ if will already have a pretty good idea of your body shape , enjoy the party and have a fun time afterwards

He obviously fancies you and will have a good idea how you look
for me a sparkly smile and confidence is so sexy
glass of wine big smile and have fun

How did it go? I hope you enjoyed yourselves.
Do tell us

Hi @Paul72 so it went great, had great sex evening the morning after… then he never spoke to me again. I even put a little red lacy number on and felt good, it’s a massive confidence blow

Sorry to hear that. What an arse!

what a nasty man, you're well rid.

long time since I've seen the red lacy number , sighs

His loss.
What a prick.

Bet you looked incredible

@GucciPearls
why is it a confidence blow, sounds like you had a great time and some good sex ?