Meeting another couple

[Tiger2018]

Hey all
I am an experienced-ish swinger (as a single bi fem) and have now been in a loving relationship with my guy for a few years. He's always been curious about that part of my life and we have spoken extensively about exploring that together. Which leads up to now.

We have set up a fab profile and are having conversations, however its not moving to socials / meet ups as quickly as I'd hoped (I'm impatient). So the reason for my post - as he is new to this, I'm conscious that this needs to progress at his pace. We've agreed to soft swap only and to checkin with each other regularly to make sure this is what we want.

If you are part of a curious couple, I'd be keen to know what else we can do and if I'm missing anything? Also just set up a killing kittens profile but there aren't many people on it yet outside of London (we're in the NW).

Happy to answer questions and give further info too.

Feel free to PM me instead if you don't want to publicly 'out' yourself 😏

Why don't you go to a club with him and let him see what the lifestyle is all about? That way he can process his feelings without feeling the obligation of something happening in a meet.

Why not go to an organised social meet? That way you get to meet a few couples without the pressure of being in a club and see if you click face to face as opposed to online

Two good suggestions from other gents.

I'm in a FWB relationship and we both play separately, but would like to try playing as a couple. The biggest issue we are finding is that a four-way attraction / connection is very very difficult to find, and we've agreed that neither one of us will "take one for the team", so although we've met couples at social events, and swingers clubs, if one of us isn't feeling it, it won't happen.

I'm surprised you are having difficulties with couples moving to socials. Particularly as you are a bi-fem - in our experience that's what couples want - It's quite possible that they aren't real couples - it's just a single guy pretending (lot's of those about!)

KK is (imho) expensive and exclusive, and seems to be for the "young & beautiful", (I'm 60, as is my FWB, and we had absolutely no interest from other KK members - your mileage may vary!) and as you say, mainly in the south.

There are other swingers websites you could try. SDC, After Dark (although that is very quiet) and swingtowns. The Feeld app works for some.

Be aware though, that, although it's great that your partner wants to explore the lifestyle with you, the reality of the situation can be very different from the fantasy, and once confronted with a real life actual couple that want to play, he may not want to / be able to progress...

Good luck!

We've been to a club already (2 in fact) - this is something we want to continue to do but meeting a couple for a social, then naughty meet in a hotel room is our preferred route.

This is also on our to-do list ;) it seems there aren't many happening regularly but hopefully this can work out eventually (see I'm impatient!)

I think the issue is both your location and the newness/tentativeness.
You need to find another couple in just the same situation.
Most couples on KK aren’t really interested in soft swapping - if they meet up in a hotel.

Have you considered coming to London for a KK party or a Kabaret? There you can get a bit more of what you are looking for - meeting people, flirting/messing about. But not going all the way.

There's a KK North chat group. Have you tried that?