Does every woman like oral sex (to them)?

[OriginalM]

I feel I am missing out as I get no stimulation from oral sex. It just feels wetter and not enough friction (sorry tmi)
I haven't had a lot of oral sex but even when partners have gone down I don't seem to get much from it.
Is there a technique I can try and ask my partner?

Going by other posts on here, not everyone likes it, no! Same with anything I guess.

I like it. I think my DH likes doing it more than I like it though.

Not sure about techniques etc. as everyone is different, and I like a variety of things - maybe that’s something - don’t just keep doing the same thing. Go fast, then slow, hard, then gentle etc.

Maybe it’s just not your thing?

It does nothing for me !! I dated a guy who couldn't get enough of doing it for me, I never really got it!

Women are not a herd and nobody can speak for “every woman”. Speaking for myself, l climax easily from oral, and won’t have sex with someone unless oral is on offer. I have also been criticised on MN in the past for this but my body my rules!

From those l discuss such things with, l don’t have any close friends that don’t like it. As for technique, that’s difficult to word on here. It sounds as if there is not enough pressure being applied. It’s important for your partner to focus on the clitoris. How much time are they spending? We are not talking instant coffee here, which is horrible anyway.

Lighthearted PS

• For best results have sex with another woman. There are benefits in the full understanding of how a woman works. Identical bodies!

.- l’m available to provide coaching.

l’ll leave you to ponder on whether l’m joking or not. But please take this as lighthearted as intended. 😀

My partner is great at oral and I'm lucky to orgasm every time. Definitely focussing on the clitoris works for me. Soft, firm, slow, fast.

Took me years (and a new lover) to find out I like it.

I like it best sitting on his face so I can sort of control the pressure at the critical moment!

Might take some playing around, instructing and also, working with your body to find the right spot - I won't cum unless I move with him a bit, it's not a lay down still situation - which is what I thought it was before I liked it

I'm not a fan of it. I've had it done many times by
men who were skilled but I just personally don't like it. I'm too ticklish, I need firmer touch. I'm more likely to come from fingering.

@cookiecreammpie - Ask partner to latch on, breath through nose and apply pressure with tongue. The firmness should mitigate any tickle issues.

No, not all. Quite a proportion don't in my (somewhat limited) experience. One previous partner was a complete nympho, loved all other aspects of sex, but wouldn't let me put my face anywhere near her lady parts. No real explanation beyond that she couldn't stand receiving oral (she was very generous giving tbough), think it was psychological more than physical.

I've not had a huge number of partners - maybe about ten before long-term marriage, but as I recall it does vary - actually to my surprise really as I (and I'm guessing the vast majority of men) love to receive oral sex, given half a chance.

One or two women in my experience absolutely adore it and others have been a bit more circumspect or even find it uncomfortable. And I don't think it was because I was rubbish.

My wife really enjoys it very occasionally and has one and sometimes more orgasms in a single session, especially if there's been some build up to it. But most often she can take it or leave it. Personally I find it a bit disappointing as I love to give it to her, but there you go. She's generous in giving it to me though which is always very nice indeed.

I enjoy it, providing it’s not sloppy and the focus is on the clit. I’ve had more not so great oral than good.

I love it. Face sitting works best for me too, you can manoeuvre a bit to find the right spot. I orgasm really easily this way, hardly ever do from anything else so I need a partner who enjoys it. But not everyone likes it and that’s fine too!

Doesn’t do anything for me. Tried. Tried a lot. But doesn’t work for me.

I hate it.

It’s something I didn’t enjoy that much at the beginning of my current relationship but now because he knows my body better it’s absolutely amazing. I find it a huge turn on

A woman is definitely better at giving oral to another woman 🤪

DP was rubbish at it 6 months ago. However, he listened to me and watched my reactions as he tried things out. I knew myself well enough to guide him into doing different things and applying more pressure in certain areas. He's now so much better.

Fwiw, I had a few FWB/1 nighters before DP and post XH. I found oral was rubbish with those who weren't invested in me. I don't think a guy can be good at oral unless he's tuned into the woman.

Not overly keen on oral no….but enjoy giving!

It’s about a job well done and all that. Done well, it can take you to wonderland.

’Sounds as if there is a training need for many men here! Men don’t listen, but the reason they have ears is to adjust the positioning of their head 😂.

what are us males doing wrong then ? :

too sloppy; not firm enough; wrong area; more clit; don't listen - lot's of us willing to learn ?

Apologies if I am too explicit here, but it makes a big difference for me, if my husband uses his fingers too.

That is using his fingers to stroke my g-spot (come hither motion on my front internal wall) while orally stimulating my clit.

This moves things along quite quickly. Oral stimulation alone is not quite enough.

It’s quite possible I’ve never had amazing oral sex, if I had, I think my answer would be different….

I love it and my husband is so good at it I feel a bit guilty reading some of the posts! I don't last any longer with oral than I do with my vibrator and that is fast! Once he has latched on to my clit and has it between his lips and tongue then I'm done 😀

too sloppy; not firm enough; wrong area; more clit; don't listen - lot's of us willing to learn ?

Yeah the worst oral I ever had was far too sloppy, too rushed, tongue everywhere, not focused. Hands grabbing at my belly / boobs/ side. It didn't work for me. I want the attention paid down below and for it to be non-slobbery, rhythmic, and for him to take his time and read my body language. Fingers help too.

Most women will be happy to guide you, just don’t change your technique each time, if they’ve shown you what they like.
Most women vary in what they like, some like the tip of a tongue, the flat of the tongue, fingers included or without….