NC for this!
I’ve been with my partner for 8 years, we live together. Our sex life used to be really good, in terms of quantity and quality. Recently for me it’s definitely been lacking in quality - still v frequent but with little or no foreplay, for example he hasn’t gone down on me for months. It often feels like my body is just being used for him to jizz into.
We do have our moments of good chemistry and do have good quality sex still, but most of the it’s ‘maintenance sex’ which does little for me.
I have talked to him about it, and he admits he can get lazy but says if this is the only thing he’s lazy about then he’s doing pretty well, and everyone is lazy in some ways. I said to him that I wouldn’t have chosen to commit to a partner who was lazy/selfish in bed and feel a bit cheated that this is what I’ve ended up with. He says I can ‘request’ what I want, and maybe I should, but I don’t like the idea of asking him to do something he’s not up for doing.
Other than this the relationship is good, he’s a great guy and I love him.
Not sure what I’m asking here, but i wondered if anyone else has been in this position on either side, and was there anything you did to help turn things around?