How often do u have sex?

[Mummy202102]

Hey I wanted to know how often couples make out? I feel like me and partner barely have sex. We’ve been together for 4 years now. First year was good every 2 days and since 3 years we have it 2 times a month and wer only 24?? This isn’t normal I’m sure. And we have no problems with each other and he isn’t depressed either or stressed! Ever time I bring it up he says he has no energy he is definitely no cheating either. He might have a low sex drive but how can someone’s sex drive be this low, so I leave it. But I’m so fustrated! I know every couple is different but just wanted to know.

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In our fifties and about once a week. At 24 with ex we were probably every day or two...often twice in a sunday😁. There is no right amount. It's what works for you both. That said most twenty somethings without Children will be making love more than once a fortnight. Children obviously seriously reduce the amount! You need to sit down when you are both relaxed smoothly discuss your needs and his needs and find a way forward. Seriously mismatched sex drives can work but often don't for obvious reasons!

Early 40s, probably once or twice a day over the weekend and on holidays but rarely during the course of the week. But never say never.

We’re late 30’s. I have a reasonably high sex drive, 2-3 times a week for us, sometimes more.

Most nights, never less than 5 times a week. I masturbate once or twice a day too, sex drives has gone crazy. We're 34 and 30.

We are M57 F63 together now 13 years we are active almost daily still, sometimes morning and night both retired so sure that helps but we very active when working
both still love sex and the closeness it brings us we sometimes have a few days break, no idea why we just don’t for a couple of days then things go back maybe we both get sexed out? Then feel horny again around the same time this seems to happen every couple of months I never really give it any thought
we have both been in low sex relationships in the past so are happy to have found someone we are so compatible with I think it is the key to a happy life

Once or twice a week - mostly once a week since we've had kids (we're in early 40s.) The sex board here might not be like an average group of the population - I imagine that the average is rather higher than usual on here! Maybe your partner would like to try something a bit different together but doesn't know how to ask? I think sometimes couples can get stuck in a routine, but if someone can try something a bit new then sometimes it can help the other person to feel more sexual again too. Hope you can find a way to make things better for you!

once a month at best, it’s shit.

Is there a reason why sex isn’t happening more? Are you able to talk to your wife/husband about it?

Every day. Always have done. We both want it and we both prioritise it.

I think you need a proper conversation with him and to insist that, if he genuinely has “no energy”, that he goes to see his GP. It’s not normal to be only 24 and so exhausted all the time. And that of he’s using “no energy” as an excuse for some other reason he doesn’t want to have sex, then the two of you need to discuss it and either work out whether if can be sorted out or what the future of your relationship is if it can’t be.

I only see my DP at weekends so twice on Saturday night and then again on Sunday morning. If we are in a weekend away then four times. I'm glad I have the week to recover.

At 24 once every couple of weeks .. both quite busy and tbh the sex wasn't great.

Nearly ten years later and once a week. And the sex is better than it used to be. Same partner.

Once or twice a month

Daily: is it a bit of kissing then Penetration or do you do a long drawn out fore play, reciprocal oral and then penetration every night?

Late 20's together 10+ years and 3/4 times a week.

Yes, this is significant really. I'd like it daily if possible, but know it takes an hour or two for a proper session, which simply isn't practical. I know DP would be satisfied with quickies, but they usually turn into marathons for us, which I think puts dp off.

So now the frequency has dropped off - we generally only see each other every other weekend, and we used to be having it 3 or 4 times. Now it's waned to once, dp doesn't seem that bothered at all.

Only see my partner at weekends, and sometimes just every other weekend. Otherwise it would be more.

I suppose that the fact that we don't see each other every day and night, makes us more pleased to be together when we are, and make the most of and appreciate our time together.

We had a dry spell of nearly a year due to ill health and have only come out of it a few months ago. Now I would say we are back to having sex 3-4 times a week. I think we have both missed it so much that we are thrilled to have things back on track and making the most of it. We are both 31 with 2 kids, been together 13 years. The sex is really good too, like we have just thrown ourselves into it and let go of any inhibitions.

Once or twice a month. I’m mid 30’s and he’s early 40’s.
It’s always been this infrequent.

Quite often, do like something rammed up me! x

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Maybe twice this year IIRC

Birthday and Xmas

I'm 24 he's 33 and once every few weeks. Been together 7 years but don't live together, we're seeing eachother less and less as I feel he's lost interest. Used to be twice a week at the most and it used to be exciting. He's never ever done foreplay or oral, just goes straight in but never bothered me. Now I feel absolutely nothing when we do it, completely numb