Partner wants sex all the time but I have no interest

[LemingtonPolly]

My partner wants to have sex all the time but I have zero interest.

We have a one and a half year old toddler and it's been the same since he was born.

Pre baby I didn't have a high sex drive either but did have some interest in sex. However since my son was born I have no desire to have sex whatsoever.

My husband was very understanding at first but now I feel like it's a total area of contention in our relationship. When we don't have sex when he 'expects it' I.e. when my son stays at his grandparents or when we have a night alone or his birthday. He goes in a massive mood and doesn't speak to me or mopes about.
I've tried having a chat with him and explaining my take on things.
He says all the right things at the time but then it just comes back round again.

When we do have sex, for example this week when my son was away he wants his several times in the one day or night. Again when I don't want to more then once I get the cold shoulder or ignored.

He tells me that I should be 'lucky or happy' that he still finds me attractive after all these years and still desires me which I get.

I also get sex is an important part of a relationship but we have a young child and I do think things will get back to normal when we aren't see deprived and busy with work etc.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable? I have said I will contact my GP to see if it's maybe a hormonal thing. I found coming off birth control before helped improve my sex drive but I'm not on any now and haven't been for years.

Hard one when both have mismatched sex drives I think.
Affects both partners in different ways but does have an effect on both.

We had the same for quite a while and it was hard with the constant feeling of rejection etc. I guess it’s really only yourselves who can work it out, however you get to that is another thing, but totally understand the feeling

Do you think that part of it is down to his approach? It's not unreasonable to want sex but it can certainly be a mood killer if one person wants it constantly or reacts negatively to being told that you aren't in the mood/in the mood to be doing it multiple times.

@Isitsixoclockalready

Partly yeah. I feel like as soon as we're alone there's this expectation of sex and it's all he talks about either jokingly or not.

Don't get my wrong if he didn't mention it or try I wouldn't. I'd be happy To leave it.

I feel like there is no intimacy on any level at all. We don't kiss anymore or cuddle really and when we do it inevitably leads to some remake or reference to sex.