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are sex toys actually good?

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 09:35

I have never owned or tried one but the mumsnet thread about sex toys has me thinking. I’m curious, but I have mixed feelings as I would like to try one BUT:

  1. I don’t like the idea of them. Of owning one, cleaning it and storing it. The idea someone might find it
  2. I found my mother’s sex toy as an older child/teenager and was pretty scarred by that
  3. DH has a very big penis so I’m not sure what there is to be gained. But I can’t get off during sex itself so maybe a little vibrator would be nice? I also don’t want him to be offended as I’ve always been quite vocal that I’m not interested in them/feel a bit embarrassed that I’m curious now.

    Are they actually good? Do they make that much of a difference? I’m happy with our sex life I suppose with small children I just find the same old initiation of sex a bit boring but don’t see another option.

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    If you've found this page in search of vibrators that have been tried and tested by fellow Mumsnet users, you might find our guide to the best vibrators useful. Hope this helps! MNHQ 💐
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B1rdflyinghigh · 05/02/2022 09:52

I think they're wonderful! I have loads and they're stored in a locked metal box.
Sex is a normal part of life so is masturbation. I would happily talk to my DD about it.
I can't rate the Satisfyer Pro 2 highly enough. This is a clit sucker rather than a vibrator About £28 from Amazon. Its so good, I own 2. Just in case one dies!
It doesn't look like a penis so it's less obvious what it is.

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 10:56

Ok thank you - I think for sure a non penis style one is the way to go if I try one, so I don’t feel
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Replacing DH and also because that’s the style I found my mother had so I think it would always “remind me”
And I wouldn’t be able to use it!

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Kebabandchipsplease · 05/02/2022 12:37

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hiphiphorray · 05/02/2022 14:31

Don't usually post on the board but wanted to reply.

I think it's very much different strokes for different folks. DH and I have some which we exclusively use together. We/I have a favourite which I often use during sex as additional clit stimulation during piv. We have a couple of others which add to the experience but don't do much in themselves iyswim.

When I've used the same toys by myself I am distinctly underwhelmed. It's too quick - very much like the fast food of the orgasm world. Very very different sensation. I have been considering one of the clit sucker ones but the reviews actually put me off.

So fun but nothing major here.

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hiphiphorray · 05/02/2022 14:37

Oh and in terms of dh feeling left out, he likes watching. I can't come through piv without the additional external stimulation but when I do it is by far my favourite way so he gets payback in the form of my extra enthusiasm! The vibe just helps with the logistics (there is a whole short arms/can't pat head and rub tummy issue that this has solved ;))

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PinotPony · 05/02/2022 14:46

Yes, they're brilliant! 😁

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 15:10

Do you watch porn together?

No, and I wouldn’t enjoy this either!

@hiphiphorray thank you! That’s a lot of great info. I vaguely mentioned to him “oh I saw this MN thread re sex toys and it got my curious” but he hasn’t asked further information so I’m not sure he would be keen.

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Inthesameboatatmo · 05/02/2022 15:13

@pinotpony.
I'm somewhat envious of that collection.

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Kebabandchipsplease · 05/02/2022 17:06

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 17:39

@Kebabandchipsplease

I understand, thank you for the suggestion! I would be curious to try a clitoral vibrator during PIV as I have always found not enjoying being touched at the same time but perhaps an object rather than a hand would feel less sensitive?

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Kebabandchipsplease · 05/02/2022 18:10

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 20:04

Lovehoney give a 100 day money back guarantee, so you could find something on there and give it a try, and if you don't like it you can send it back for a full refund

Surely they are just sending already tried and returned sex toys with this policy?! 😳

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Kebabandchipsplease · 05/02/2022 20:44

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Giraffesandbottoms · 05/02/2022 20:49

Very good to know! Thank you!

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Kebabandchipsplease · 05/02/2022 21:02

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Gowithme · 05/02/2022 21:18

From what you've said I would recommend a bullet OP.

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StarlightLady · 06/02/2022 01:59

OP, every woman should have at leat one. I have a waterproof one which lives on the bath side, 2 little bullets (one goes everywhere with me in my makeup bag) and a powerful German made jobbie. I wouldn’t be without them. Regardless if the size of your husband’s penis, it does not vibrate.

My needs for 1:1 sex and some “me time” are totally different. The latter is a regular wake up start to most days when neither my body or my head is up for sharing. It is beautifully self indulgent.

I agree about trying a bullet for starters. You can pick one up in larger branches of Boots for around £10. “Drive” it yourself for best results though!

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wishfuldreamer · 07/02/2022 22:42

@PinotPony - bottom left, is that a double ended? Do you find it stays put? Would you recommend?

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PinotPony · 08/02/2022 09:34

[quote wishfuldreamer]@PinotPony - bottom left, is that a double ended? Do you find it stays put? Would you recommend?[/quote]
Yes, a strapless strap on.

I didn't rate it much. Was so busy clenching my pelvic floor to hold the bloody thing in, that I didn't really enjoy it.

I bought a strap on harness with a built in vibe instead. Much more secure and can change the dildo for different sizes.

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MissNothing1991 · 08/02/2022 12:49

@Kebabandchipsplease

Keep checking their Deal of the Day, can get up to 50% off some items.

I really don't work for LH, just a happy customer of theirs.

They also have a great deal on at the min, a rabbit, a vibe, lube and toy cleaner for £50
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MrsGHarrison87 · 08/02/2022 13:06

They're not all good. Some won't work for you and so many of them are a waste of money, but when you find one that works for you, you will be mindblown. I learned how to make myself come when I was about 16 but didn't get a toy till I was 24. The orgasm is intensified and prolonged with a vibrator. The one I have from Ann Summers they don't even make anymore, so I was made up to find one on Ebay recently ( unopened obviously) as back up.

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wishfuldreamer · 16/02/2022 17:46

Yes…that’s been what a number of people have said. I think a double ended flexy dildo that you can both move on, and a strap on, are better options. From what I’ve heard, these sort of don’t do either well, but I wondered if this one was better 😁

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