Why??? Too big? Hurts

[Wtf12004]

My partner is perfect but I dread having sex with him. He’s very big and it hurts. I find myself wanting to get drunk to do it and that’s not fair on him. Advice please? I don’t want to lose him over this!

Are you aroused first?
Have you tried lube?

This sounds very “him” centred rather than shared. To me it sounds like lack of foreplay, you having insufficient oral and his poor technique.

As PP suggests, lube may help, but it really sounds like wallpapering over the cracks!

Treat this in the context of a loving relationship and discuss it with him with a view to finding a mutually pleasurable and satisfying solution. That way you can explain what does and doesn’t hurt and you can both be part of preventing that.

Not saying it will be easy as he is a man after all and will be very sensitive - but handled right it will be great for you both.

You need to be fully aroused and lubricated. If not then use lube including on him before he entered you. I guarantee he will love the feel of you holding his foreskin right back as though he is circumcised and massage it in.

The other aspect (as so,e one whose DH is pretty large) if that regular sex seems to keep me stretched. If we go without for a while it definitely feels like I'm being split apart somewhat!

But remember what our lady bits are designed for so taking a large guy is very doable

Also curious about this, tips for positions etc.

I have had painful sex in the past with small-average sized penises. My partner of 9 years is quite well endowed but I've never had any pain despite the size. Just need to make sure I'm fully relaxed, aroused and lube if required! Sometimes it's a vicious circle - the more you are worrying about how it's going to hurt, the more tense you will get which makes things worse. Just try and relax - use lube!