Only fans

[Allypa]

Last night in bed DP of 2 years admitted during a bit of dirty talk that he had signed up to only fans so as to see more of a woman he had seen on tiktok. He is always honest with me and we are both open watchers of porn.
I was quiet while I thought about that and he asked " have I done something wrong ? Is that bad, do you want me to delete my account?",
Is it over the line?"

I'm not sure what to think. I'm not sure it's different to porn Is it ?
I mean presumably he could message this woman so that's a no no for me I think?
He's a 53 year old man though so I don't think I'm worried she'll be running off with him anytime soon!
Should I be more bothered? I don't know what to think?

you could ask him if you can see how she looks etc (not as interrogating way) and see if there are some elements he found attractive with this lady that you could emulate?

I really hope this is a joke.

OP, leave him to masturbate alone and find a decent man. You don't need a tiktok-watching 53 year-old wanker in your life. I know you can do better than that.

@Allypa I think it's over the line watching porn is 1 thing but paying for a particular woman on only fans is completely different

In some respects Only Fans is a better option than porn. At least you know the woman has created an account herself and is getting paid, whereas some women on Pornhub seem to have no idea they are being filmed.

That said, it raises questions about why women are resorting to Only Fans to make money. Great if it's something they enjoy and want to do, not so great if they are only doing it because they have no other income options.

It's a valid point about there being 1-1 contact. I think that would be a deal breaker for me. I'd wonder about the extent to which there were personal communications with DP.

Quite a number of the accounts on OnlyFans feature kids. However, I do agree it's preferable to porn in that you don't have to have any physical contact with the men.

Both OnlyFans and porn are both a ripoff in terms of pay. The overwhelming majority of accounts on OnlyFans only make about £200-£300 a month, and the work is hugely time-consuming.

Services like boyfriend experience are the worse because some loser will be texting every five minutes and demanding all your time for maybe £100. This only sounds like a lot of money to a teenager, not an adult woman who has bills to pay, which probably go someway to explaining why there are so many kids on the platform.

If you're both open watchers of porn, why would you care about onlyfans?
That said, if he's 53, why is he on tiktok?🤣

This would be a dealbreaker for me.

Not a dealbreaker for me (in terms of the ongoing relationship), but I would say ‘Turns out it does bother me, it’s not like porn when you can contact the person. I’d prefer you deleted it, thanks.’
Then I’d move on with my life. Sounds like he would too.

It would be a dislike for me, if I had a partner. But guess there is no way you can stop a man from tuning in to these things, if he is addicted to this kind of viewing. Thousands of men everywhere, any age, will be watching women on sites,as everything is freely,or not free, to watch now, and loads of men can get their thrills any old time.