FWB advice

[SilverliningNC]

Longstanding MNer, NC for this.
I’d like to look into a FWB. I’m older than most of us and fed up with the lack of luck with OLD. I would like to look into a FWB but because of where I live approaching anyone I know it would be difficult to be discreet. I assume getting the B bit is easy but I’d want someone closer to my own age for a better generational fit, the F bit, not a heavybreathing youngster.
I don’t want to use the usual OLD sites, they seem too open. Are there specific fWB sites I could try?

The only one I know is Fabswingers, however you need to set your filters.
Good luck and i hope you have lots of fun!

@SilverliningNC
I'm 59 - I found both my FWB (not both at once, you understand! ) on ordinary dating sites. I made it clear what I was looking for at first contact, which put 95% of women off, and then persisted enough to find people I had a connection with, as the F bit is as important, if not more important, than the B bit for me. i'm looking for another

Fabswingers is worth a shot, but as @Ohyesthatone says, set your filters carefully - maybe hide your profile, so that no-one can message you, and then you reach out to people that interest you. Be prepared for many pictures of male genitalia...

Another option is KillingKittens - that is female led, in that the female has to drive any conversation.

As a older single guy, I've had much better luck on "normal" dating sites than the more, er "adult" ones, but as a female, you will definitely be spoilt for choice!

I met two wonderful FWBs. A big emphasis on friends, but lovely benefits part as well. It worked brilliantly for us.

Both my wife and I have our own FWBs.

Mine is a former work colleague who became a friend and for the last 11 years has been my FWB. We met up only last Sunday afternoon, this time without the B bit, but that still happens.

My wife's FWB is a former partner whom she sees often although not for a few months now.

It doesn't have to be someone you meet on a site, but if like my wife and I, you choose someone you know to be your friend with benefits, you need to approach it carefully with them.