How to enjoy bum fun.

[LowlytheWorm]

Anal play sounded too awful for a title. 😬

So. My lovely husband has shown some interest in having some erm touching or rubbing in the nether regions in order to climax. God this is awful to write about but I absolutely could NOT discuss it with anyone so I’m stuck here!
I just don’t fancy it- but he is honestly SO lovely and attentive etc that I want to want to give it a go. Any suggestions? At all? He’d like me to touch him as he climaxes during PIV but I can’t really reach anyway so it is just awkward… I can’t really fathom how to do it. Please help…

You should only do this if you want to , dont let him guilt you into it , though it doesn't sound like he is trying to ATM

The best way I found was for him to lie on his back with a pillow under his bum and you sit astride him , you can get to each others that way.
If you really dont want to touch his bum but want to give him pleasure he could buy a butt plug or small vibrator for you to use on him

Thank you @AlCalavicci honestly he is the last person to ever guilt me (anyone!) into anything and I’m fact he’d be mortified to know how I feel.
A butt plug or a small vibe is a good idea and thanks for the tip re positioning.

He sounds like a keeper .

The pillow is there to make his penis and bum more easy for you to get to so make sure the pillow goes along his bum / back rather than across it. So that you don't kneel on it .

Use plenty of lube and be gentle! And have fun

Thank you. He’s certainly a keeper indeed and this is after more than a decade of marriage- he used to be very vanilla but seems to have found some spice in his older age… not complaining at all as I am very much the beneficiary, so I’d like to like this a bit more too… off to look at lovehoney.

Latex type Finger stall with nubbly bits, got mine onLovehoney, so you’re not going ‘in there’ uncovered? They easily scrub clean with soap.
And I’d suggest you try it first when giving him hand/blowjob, just so you are able to touch him more easily (and maybe see/find where you’re going!).

@Itsnotmyjob thank you for the tip!

Latex gloves from the chemist if you feel icky about inserting fingers.

Don't just focus on his bumhole. You could start with an external prostate massage, lots of lube and just kneeding your knuckles into his perineum... kind of a figure of eight. Then move onto touching around his bumhole, stroking and pressing.

Vibration is really great for relaxing the muscles so I agree with PP about a butt plug or toy... make sure it has a flared base to avoid a trip to A&E!

Lola Jean runs some great webinars about anal play and pegging... well worth checking out.

lolajean.com/writing

Maybe sit reverse cowgirl so you can have an easier access to the bum.