Quicker by intercourse or hand?

[sleepyhoglet]

I read threads which talk about men not being able to finish during sex because of their reliance on "death grip". So that means that they need a hand job to finish? I've always found DH is slower when I give a handjob than intercourse. Is that normal? And if so, why?!

Depends. Sometimes I cum very quickly if dp gives me a hand job. Sometimes not. I usually finish with in 5 to 10 mins of penetration. Depends on mood an d opportunity!

OK maybe just my technique then

A quick Google says there's no evidence that death grip is actually a thing. I also read that as men age their testosterone levels fall, and that means less sensitivity during sex. That means it's harder for a man to come, particularly if his partner has also got a bit looser with age.

I'm mid-40s and waay waaaaay less sensitive than I was 20 years ago. I've even noticed a change in the last few years.

There's a lot of crap talked about 'death grip' on MN.

In your case, your handjob technique could be fine, it's just that PIV sex feels even better to your DH than a handjob.