Would you know if you are "loose" down there? If so how would you know?

[Flowerpowergreen]

I'm aware that after giving birth your vigina can remain stretched, this does not happen to everyone. However, how would you know if you are not as tight down there as you used to be? Would you even know yourself or would you have to rely on sexual partner to tell you (which doesn't seem likely).

Has this happen to anyone? If so how did you know?

I would appreciate any advice on how I would know/find out.

I was told by my husband that he couldn't feel much down there after I gave birth.

He said later that it was his depression talking, but I still struggled to get over it. I used a vaginal trainer thing to try and improve matters, but not very consistently. He still seemed quite keen to have sex.

I had a LOT of sex with a range of men after DH died and I was told I was normal (a lot of them were much bigger than any partner I'd had before though).

My bf says that I'm not loose at all. Either things can improve over time or it's largely about fit between two individuals rather than looseness as such.

It varies really. I think I'm lucky as after a few months it felt normal to me and DH who has always complimented me on "being tight" started doing so again....although I jokingly said to him he was just humouring me lol.

However, friends have said they have never gone back and I know in the "olden days" , if you were stitched after the birth the midwife would often ask "would you like an extra one for your husband?"

I think for blokes and what they feel it is a combination of it is probably stretched someone what but if they are on the smaller average size they may notice more

Can't say I've noticed any difference with DW. She's had two vaginal births.

The only difference I really noticed was that DW (who was very assiduous with her pelvic floor exercises) could squeeze really hard. So overall she felt much better than before we had children.

If you have to ask "is it in?" to guys with average or larger size dicks.

Inserting a mooncup or tampon and its no longer a snug fit.

Using your old favourite dildo and it feels smaller.

Fucking someone you fucked before childbirth and you think "damn, this isn't even touching the sides".

OP is there something specific you're worried about? Has a man said you're too loose? (no decent man would ever say this BTW)