Sex From Behind!

[ChloBows1]

Hi,

Whenever I have sex in the doggy style position, I can find it uncomfortable, bordering painful but if I put my head low down to the bed and bum in the air, it’s fine. Does anyone else have this problem?

What part of it is uncomfortable? Is it upper body strength, arthritic hips or the angle of penetration?

Oh sorry! I can see the confusion, it’s the angle of penetration.

@ChloBows1 - If standard doggy doesn't feel good, try other positions like spooning or cowgirl - experiment, explore, and enjoy!

I'm trying to work out the geometry. (I need to get out more!!!)
It sounds as though your partner's penis might be putting pressure on the front wall of your vagina. Possibly around your g-spot. Does that sound like the problem?

@AverageGuy - We do other positions but I like doggy, I was just wondering if anyone else experienced anything similar.

@Estherpologist - It’s definitely not my g-spot, the feeling is deeper, it may be my cervix and when I lean downwards, it opens things up more.

I think I know exactly what you mean! One evening I was a bit drunk so only noticed the "pressure" sensation and not the pain and afterwards I had the most horrendous cramps! I assume it must be that he hits my cervix or something at that angle.

If he is going in too far then try being on your side and him behind you.

You will get all the sensations of pleasure.
You can then control how far he penetrates by small adjustments of your hips.
He probably wont notice, I didn't.
We started that position when she was pregnant and it became her favourite.

@ChloBows1

God I hope you find a solution I couldn’t live without it!!

@Jamestheleast - Yes we both like spooning etc but we both enjoy sex in the doggy position too. I was more asking if anyone else had experienced the same in this position, if my head is right down on the bed and my bums in the air it’s fine but if I have my hands and knees on the bed and I’m in a more upright position, it’s uncomfortable.

Yes, I have the same experience. Face down lower than bum is better, but on all fours it can be painful. Although for me the pain is more at the entrance than deeper.

Exactly the same for me...must hit the cervix. It does a weird thing which is gets the g spot beautifully so instant orgasm but simultaneously horrible pain! And again, head down solves it

My wife has found doggy uncomfortable since having had children (youngest is 15 for perspective)
She needs to arch her back rather than dip it and i need to be careful - no banging away with gay abandon - which is kind of half the of doggy!

Fair to say we hardly ever do it

Meant to say half the fun...

@LetsGoToTheHills - Yes it seems like it is my cervix he’s hitting against.

@Wherearemymarbles - If I’m in the right position, he can bang away but if I change my position, then it gets uncomfortable.

Try keeping your legs together while he's in from behind, it makes the penetration a little shallower.

Pelvic flexion can help with this.
Look up the yoga position cat cow.

@ragnarson - Did it work for you? It says it’s good for back pain?

[quote ChloBows1]@ragnarson - Did it work for you? It says it’s good for back pain?[/quote]
Yes, it teaches how to flex the muscles and means I'm not hitting her cervix like I'm the drug squad on a raid.

@ragnarson

Yes, it teaches how to flex the muscles and means I'm not hitting her cervix like I'm the drug squad on a raid.

hahahahaha

I always feel conscious (after children) that I need to be careful of his angle. Because otherwise as such deep penetration possible and v quick, if it hits the cervix (or hits it, tips it backwards and flips ovaries forwards omg the pain) then I'm fucked (ha).

So. Actually for some reason kneeling on the floor by the bed, with my upper body on the bed, and him kneeling or squatting on the floor behind me, seems safer. I dread to think why, but it's an idea.

I do of course like doggy. I just don't want it to feel like a scary car chase and who knows if will end perfectly fine or ... in the central reservation (in a bad way) ...

@ragnarson - I’m not going to lie, I thought you was a female yoga teacher 😳
Will have a look into the cat cow 👍🏻

I've found penetrative sex difficult in some positions all my life and can't do doggy at all due to the pain. Turns out i have an inverted uterus, which basically means it lies in a different position to most women. I find i often find menstral cramps manifest as lower back ache. Most comfortable positions for me are always facing my partner.
If you enjoy doggy and can do it with your head down low just go for that option - I may even try it myself to see if it helps me

This being MN ...

clearly we need a diagram.

@Iamthrough

Face down lying on bed with arms out in front and knees bent and (sorry ...) ass up. Then he puts pillows under you so ass is in ideal access position and you are supported and comfy. At this angle the tipped-back cervix is perfectly happy.

He is also happy. He could perhaps put his hands on top of yours, too. (ok yes that bit was not strictly on topic, just gratuitous 😉)

Win win.

Thank you @Ponchek2. I may speak to my current partner and see if he's up to give it a try

Yes I have a retroverted uterus so doggy style is painful, best back position for me is lying flat on my front with just my bum slightly elevated and legs together. Being penetrated at this angle must hit the right spot because it really makes me moan, as it feels reaaaaallly good 😅