Getting used to new boyfriend's body.

[burstintotearsagain]

It's not a big deal but I'd love or to hear your thoughts please.
I was in a relationship for 20 years and have been intimate with my new boyfriend recently. He is the first man I've been with since my split.
I fancy My current boyfriend 100% more than I ever did my previous partner ( who was sexually coercive) looking at my bf turns me on.
However , and this is where I need advice .. I was only ever able to cum one way and that's when I was on top in my previous relationship . My ex had never made me cum with hand or mouth , only in that position .
My new bf can make me some in a matter of Minutes with his hands but he has a protruding belly so I don't cum when I'm on top, as it was the grinding of the two pelvic areas that got me off in my previous relationship .
I feel like I've a mental block now and wonder how to get that feeling again but I'm a different position ?
Any ideas please?

Op.
Explore and experiment! Different things work for different people.

Maybe try sitting up when on top (cowgirl)? Won't get the pelvis's rubbing together, but might help..

Thanks . Letting myself go seems to be my issue

@burstintotearsagain

Thanks . Letting myself go seems to be my issue

Oh, I don’t want to read and run but will reply later - OP the damage to the sexual psyche from sex with a coercive partner can be very substantial. I will answer properly later. Hopefully something of what I say may help X

Thank you

@burstintotearsagain sorry I've been a bit longer than intended coming back to you. I will write properly this evening. But I do think this is something psychological and I'll try to say what I can to help. X

I think you need to let go of the past. What you have now sounds great

Good sex evolves naturally. Don’t prejudge it

I'm
Bawling . I'm so sorry that you went through that. Thank you from the bottom of my heart x

It's ok. Not sure why I even said. Felt a bit raw. Better now! 🙂