How to help partner with ED

[optimistic40]

Does anyone have experience of ED or a partner with ED?

How can I help my partner? He is a loving and giving man and he is struggling with depression caused by the pandemic and being unable to do the things he enjoys, nothing to look forward to.

Sometimes he uses viagra and it generally works. He will do things to satisfy me, so this isn't about me needing sex to be satisfied. I want him to be satisfied too! Plus I miss the feeling of being wanted in that way.

I've been thinking of maybe just waiting to see if things improve after lockdown measures are eased.

I'm worried that I have been a bit unkind as at first I thought he just didn't fancy me anymore, but he has assured me that that isn't the case.

If this is something that you have dealt with, is there anything I can do (or avoid doing) to get things back on track?

Hi,
I’ve suffered with periods of ED, mostly stress related not depression.
Personally I found it passed as the stress period passed, but periods of ED are common in us over 40s, things that will help are gently daily exercise, cut down on the booze, fatty foods etc and get good sleep.

From your POV, don’t push for sex too much, but as the same time keep up physical contact, sit together, cuddle in bed that kinda thing, he needs more emotional support than anything else

His feelings towards you will not have changed due to the ED.
Unfortunately loss of sexual drive is common with male depression

www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/men-and-depression/index.shtml

Also maybe a trip to the GP for a health check to look for things like diabetes symptoms

www.nhs.uk/conditions/erection-problems-erectile-dysfunction/

Good luck, hopefully things will back in working order soon

Having reached a real "dip" in our sex life (im 57 wife 59 ) i picked up courage and went to pharmacist ( wife had noticed my lack of interest and erections) was recommended Tadalafil 5mg daily ,( this is not like Viagra but builds up in the body and allows for more spontaneity as you take every day-takes 3-5 days to build up ) ,took for 4 days in the evening before bed and then on the 4th night results were Wow woke up in midle of night and had full erection ,went back to bed and woke early with another full erection and i mean full ,rock solid out the top of my pajama bottoms ! wife noticed as i tried to "deal ".with it...had we had great full penetration sex, orgasm and ejaculation were strong too .continued to take for a couple of nights then decided to only use a few days a week as i was getting strong erections every time i had a shower or just looking at wife's legs ! Have a chat with the pharmacist and ATB

@cteal57

Having reached a real "dip" in our sex life (im 57 wife 59 ) i picked up courage and went to pharmacist ( wife had noticed my lack of interest and erections) was recommended Tadalafil 5mg daily ,( this is not like Viagra but builds up in the body and allows for more spontaneity as you take every day-takes 3-5 days to build up ) ,took for 4 days in the evening before bed and then on the 4th night results were Wow woke up in midle of night and had full erection ,went back to bed and woke early with another full erection and i mean full ,rock solid out the top of my pajama bottoms ! wife noticed as i tried to "deal ".with it...had we had great full penetration sex, orgasm and ejaculation were strong too .continued to take for a couple of nights then decided to only use a few days a week as i was getting strong erections every time i had a shower or just looking at wife's legs ! Have a chat with the pharmacist and ATB

Not sure where you hit your into but Tadalafil is pretty much exactly the same as viagra. Once Pfizer's patent on viagra (sildenafil) expired, other manufacturers could produce similar drugs. There are a few minor tweaks in the composition but tadalafil is just a tweaked sildenafil/Viagra

You can now get low dose viagra over the counter. Worth gently suggesting he gets himself checked out by his GP. Other than that keep positive. Pressure is the last thing he needs. All men have failures once in a while and if it recurs it can be very depressing and self fulfilling. If we worry we won't get hard then we dont. Rest assured it isn't you and with time and patience and positivity his ED will go. If it is a self esteem and worry thing then maybe viagra will get.his confidence back. It won't work if he has an underlying health issue but if it's in the mind then viagra will give him an erection once he is sexually stimulated and that's where you come inl

withmycoffee ,sorry to disagree but there is a clear difference according to the pharmacist ...
1/ Viagra - Sildenafil is the active ingredient in Viagra
The effects of Sildenafil ( Viagra ) can last for up to six hours.
2/Cialis has the active ingredient ‘Tadalafil’
Tadalafil Daily provides a low daily dose of the active ingredient tadalafil. A regular level of tadalafil in the body works to help produce spontaneous erections sufficient for sex.
The majority of men notice will firmer and longer lasting erection within 5 days of starting the treatment.
hope that helps ATB