Why do I ache everywhere afterwards?

[WitchesNest]

Just that really. Never used to happen, but suddenly the next day I ache all over. We’re not having particularly rigorous sex, but it lasts around 30-40 mins usually.

Waking up with a sore back, sore legs, sore hips, general heavy feeling in my shoulders/arms and bloody hell I'm physically exhausted the next day, so we’re currently only having sex 2-3 times a week. I’ve not put on weight, neither has he. Have the same fitness levels as usual, not getting sore like this after my usual exercise either only ever after I’ve had sex. Not an issue with a lack of interest during sex either (though it does tend to go on longer than I’d like). Same contraception I’ve been on for years too so no change there.

Please tell me what could be causing this? It’s driving me and OH bonkers

Are you tensing up? Holding your body in one position for too long?

Age. I’m nearly sixty and it used to do me right in

@FortunesFave We move about a bit, usually swapping between missionary and us on our sides. I do tense up though, but that’s not a new thing. He’s a bit on the larger side down there and tends to go in too far which hurts so I usually stay tensed up to stop him as he forgets it’s painful for me

@BubblyBarbara I’m around the 30 mark, was hoping it wasn’t age related!

Oh probably not at 30!

You ache everywhere because you are tensed the whole time against him hurting you by going too deep. So talk with him about this and be clear that him going too deep and hurting you has to stop.

I do get this too, especially sore hips and thighs!! Feels like I've done a work out the next day!! I'm 35