Having sex with a larger lady

[ConspicuousCustard]

I am that larger lady, and have always assumed (extremely low self esteem) that I must be unpleasant to have sex with because of my size. It's only just entered my consciousness that some aspects of my size might actually feel nice to a partner .. Eg: I'm soft and warm and nice to cuddle. Its literally a revelation to me. I just wondered if anyone with experience of sex with a larger woman might share some more of the positives with me, and maybe some of those might apply to me too.

How large are you talking?

Ive had intimacy with a few larger girls in the past (biggest maybe Size18) and it wasnt ever really an issue, I found the naked body and curves very sexy, my wife struggles with her weight for years, shes always bounced between 14 and 16 and occasionally drifted into the 18 range and not once was it ever an issue, i fancied her regardless.

Be confident and youll be sexy whatever size clothes you are, thats the sexiest thing a guy wants, someone that oozes confidence x

So many people that actively seek out larger women (for sex, relationships and as a fetishistic porn category of Big Beautiful Women (BBW), SSBW (super size)) etc.

Exactly as you have said - the sensations of softness, cuddliness, curves everywhere and fantasy of being "buxom" and voluptuous are there. To some, larger women personify abundance and sensuality.

I'm large, very large. Size 20/22. Thought I'd never have another relationship as I'm in my sixties, and was very unconfident about myself. But hey, it happened. My partner loves my body. Obviously, I'm not someone that can tell you about sex with a larger woman from the partner's point of view but I can tell you for sure that he considers me a 'cuddly bundle of gorgeousness' and it's great. There are people out there who will appreciate you, @ConspicuousCustard

I'm currently a size 20/22. I've been smaller, and I have been a size bigger.

Thank you all for your replies. It's genuinely been a revelation to me that someone could find my body desirable. I think that I have always been so disgusted by myself that I assumed everyone else was also. Plus I think as women, constantly surrounded by those images, we assume that what a man wants must be the perfect girl with the thigh gap etc (I'm not criticising slim women BTW)

I don't think there are many people who find the skeletal look very attractive. It's when you are much bigger than the average woman (size 16 in the UK!), let alone Insta babes who are slim but curvy that your confidence can erode.

@ConspicuousCustard - I'm really pleased you realised you are attractive and deserve to be desired. There will be men who don't find you attractive, but that's ok (I'm sure you don't find every man sexy!). I have been plus-sized most of my adult life, and have never had any problems through online/offline dating. There are thousands upon thousands of men that would love to get to know you, and would love to sleep with you because of what you look like, not in spite of it. Enjoy

Does being ugly too make a difference?

Ugliness/beauty is subjective. Even very "plain" people can have sex appeal and be attractive - and I think part of that is down to having a good inherent level of self-respect / self-esteem.

I don't think there are many people who find the skeletal look very attractive.

Plenty of men find very skinny women attractive . What a nasty thing to say. For every man that fancies a fat woman, there's another who fancies thin women. Skinny shaming is not ok.

Imagine if I came on here and said 'I don't think many men find the morbidly obese look attractive'.

I'd get absolutely flamed.

It took me all my courage to post this, so please can we not get into a big argument about it. Please.

Absolutely @CarolVordermansBum - there so many super slim women (and men) that I think are drop dead gorgeous!

I didn't want to quote the exact words from a PP for various reasons but a reference was made to a "beautiful Auschwitz survivor" look, which is really what I meant - I don't think very many people find such a tragic, near death look attractive.

And I should have said sorry @CarolVordermansBum - you're right, I didn't intend to put down one group of people to 'raise up' another.

In the sex party world black men absolutely adore bigger women. Something about that booty they can't resist.

Although larger women arent a body type I would actively pursue, that is relevant to prove I am not biased by a fetish.
I have slept with a couple of bigger ladies and can confirm it's not a bad experience. It's very "comfortable sex" theres more warmth and cushioning.
As for the ugly question, define ugly? No I dont personally think somebody not looking like a model would make any difference, a pretty face doesnt make someone good in the sack!

My ex was a 16, I'm not sure what size is considered large?

She was fucking sexy, pretty, great boobs.

I loved it and still love curvy women.

I didn't want to quote the exact words from a PP for various reasons but a reference was made to a "beautiful Auschwitz survivor" look, which is really what I meant - I don't think very many people find such a tragic, near death look attractive.

which is even more offensive. The 'beautiful Auschwitz survivor" comment was repellent. Why bring survivors of the Holocaust into this subject? Slim women have a 'near death' look?
You really need to slate slim women to feel better about being big?

Please could we not get into this on this thread. This plays out in every other thread about weight, please not on this one.

Stop worrying it all down to personal prefrance .

So you follow any of the body positive people on insta - stylemecurvy, Lizzie, there are loads - scantily a good one for bigger women's lingerie. Some of the comments can be enlightening and it's good to see that type of body normalised.

@bumhead

I didn't want to quote the exact words from a PP for various reasons but a reference was made to a "beautiful Auschwitz survivor" look, which is really what I meant - I don't think very many people find such a tragic, near death look attractive.

which is even more offensive. The 'beautiful Auschwitz survivor" comment was repellent. Why bring survivors of the Holocaust into this subject? Slim women have a 'near death' look?
You really need to slate slim women to feel better about being big?

Thanks for pulling this particular poster up about this, absolutely abhorrent thing to say! I'm very very slim, dh absolutely loves me being this way, thinks I'm bloody gorgeous etc Would it be acceptable for him to say something truly offensive about someone very overweight? Nope, thought not!

Im a size bigger than you op. Can't say I've had any problems with positions. I haven't ever done lifted off the ground positions but i would imagine they're only really done in films.

@Happyhusband
‘"beautiful auschwitz survivor" look‘
I’ll refrain from reporting your post but what a sick and utterly offensive description this is.

@Happyhusband
I'm another who found your comment utterly disgusting and couldn't believe what I was reading.
If this is how you refer to people in real life then you should be ashamed of yourself.

I'm having trouble understanding the whole post actually. You need to be comfortable with who you are as asking people for their reasons for liking won't help unless you are IMO.

I don't think size matters really, I prefer enthusiasm more than a particular size anyday.