I fancy my boyfriend but I can't cum

[AyeshaHi]

I find it really hard to cum with my boyfriend. I can do it at home alone but with him, it's very rare. I find my mind is over thinking during sex. He gives me oral and I've only ever cum once when I was totally relaxed. Other times, I have to touch myself to make myself cum with him but this doesn't always work. He always has a great time and is very patient with me. He says to just forget about it and it will just happen but I'm worrying as he's the only man I want and I don't know why I can't relax.

Have you cum with other boyfriends?

I find my mind is over thinking during sex

Sex will never work if this is occurring. The female mind needs to be switched on fully without distractions

I only came with one previous boyfriend but he would perform a hell of a lot of oral on me so eventually I would cum. With my current boyfriend, I've only cum rarely when touching myself with him or once with oral. I keep worrying about it and then it never happens. I just cannot relax. He says he can see me getting close but then I fall back again each time.

Some people just can’t cum with their partner. It’s definitely not abnormal. So long as you enjoy sex take your time. Maybe even try mutual masturbation.