How many times a week do you have sex?

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I know this will have been asked a million times on MN....but I can't seem to find any of the threads.

How many times a week (on average) do you have sex?

And what is your age & your DP's age?

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About once every 6 months unfortunately...never seem to be quite in sync with when we each feel like it. I have a much higher drive than my wife and often feel frustrated/ rejected but what can you do. Been together 10 years, married 5. I’m 31 my wife is 36. I’m Pregnant with our babies currently and always hear it stops completely when they arrive 🤦‍♀️

Generally 3-4 times per week. My sex drive is much lower than DH's and I really try to get in the mood, but it's hard! DH would rather every day, I'd prefer once a week. We're 29 and 27.

Don't think we ever got as far as twice a week even when ttc.

Twice a month now. Late forties

About 6 x a year I'm 32 dh is 40, two kids

Both 42, been together 22 years with 3 DC. I think we’ve have sex twice this year!! I think it was a year gap before that, then a 2-year gap before that. Totally ridiculous. It’s been an issue for the past 14 years. I wish I’d never married him. It’s currently like living with a nice cousin/brother. For a long while (up until 5 years ago), I’d always be keen, but the constant rejection made me just stop even trying. Nowadays I don’t find him in the slightest bit attractive, even though we’re both in good shape, healthy, work out frequently and both attractive.

We have a lovely home and family. He still likes to cuddle, hold hands and kiss on the lips. It’s a bit ick. I always get dressed/showered in private. He wandered into the bathroom the other day whilst I was showering and it felt a bit weird!!

I think I’ll probably pursue a private arrangement with someone in a similar position in a few years. And I won’t be feel guilty about doing so, as he’s the one who decided that he wasn’t bothered about having an intimate relationship.

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Approximately 0.2 times, recently nearer 0.1

Late forties
June this year
So if you want weekly I guess that’s 1/52 a week.
I’m not holding out any hope for the last week of the year to increase that score.

Not enough. Less than once a week, possibly once a fortnight. I’d settle for 2/3 times a week or more

I’m 39, DH is 48

Not had sex with DH now since about April last year with no sign of any change. He's just lost interest in me (sexually at least).

He stopped instigating and only goes through the motions when I do, so I've now given up also.

I think I’ll probably pursue a private arrangement with someone in a similar position in a few years. And I won’t be feel guilty about doing so, as he’s the one who decided that he wasn’t bothered about having an intimate relationship.

Fair enough but why not just leave? Or at least lay this on the table? Maybe he'd like to sleep around as well.

@BubblyBarbara - l think there is a huge difference between someone forming a private intimate friendship arrangement to meet their desires, as opposed to someone “sleeping around.” Not that l like the latter term anyway.

We tend to do it nightly, and sometimes in the morning as well, except when Auntie Flo is visiting, so I guess that comes to around 6 times a week averaged out. I'm 24 and DP is 26. We have no kids, so I guess that makes it easier, but TTC soon, so we'll make the best of our freedom for now!

Around 2-3 times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But that's the average. I'm 24, DP is 30. Been together four years and have a nearly two year old who isn't the best sleeper, which sometimes means we don't get the time or opportunity!

We have no kids, so I guess that makes it easier, but TTC soon, so we'll make the best of our freedom for now!

I would. It will dry up a lot for a fair while especially if you BF

Been together 12 years we’re both 26, have a child. We have sex 4 times a week on average, usually the week before period my sex drive dips. Apart from that I’m the one with the high sex drive - having sex 4 times a week gives hubby enough of a break.

I could not imagine being in a relationship where sex was dull or not happening.

@Wife21

Been together 12 years we’re both 26, have a child. We have sex 4 times a week on average, usually the week before period my sex drive dips. Apart from that I’m the one with the high sex drive - having sex 4 times a week gives hubby enough of a break.

I could not imagine being in a relationship where sex was dull or not happening.

Problem is that as you get older you become more invested in the relationship, with more to lose, less to gain and fewer options, so whilst unpalatable, it can be the unfortunate better place between a rock and a hard place.

Our sex life was never great, but moved to dull, and now nonexistent.

I really don't like it, but do not want to break up the family with everything that entails and leave the man I love, to maybe improve my sex life elsewhere, maybe not. The pros and cons don't stack for me, personally, but I appreciate everyone's circumstances are different.