How many times a week do you have sex?

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I know this will have been asked a million times on MN....but I can't seem to find any of the threads.

How many times a week (on average) do you have sex?

And what is your age & your DP's age?

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ReadyforTakeOff

Just over 30 times a week. I am 36 and DP is 37

@ReadyforTakeOff You need to be doing the deed an average of 4 times a day, how do you manage this? Also does it not take the excitement and anticipation out of sex, I’m genuinely curious?

I'm 55 & he's 67. We don't live together & mainly see each other at weekends, when it's Friday evening, Saturday morning & evening, Sunday morning & evening.

@HaggisBurger sorry to derail, but how did you manage to get back from nothing for 7 years to once a week please?

Me and DH go through phases. But always at least once a week. Sometimes 3 times sometimes every day x

This suits DH and he feels we probably have sex more than others our age.

Really? I think twice a week is fine if you're both happy with that, but I'm 45 and not convinced it's that standard.

I don't have as much actual sex as I'd like since I'm in a long-distance FWB situation, but between phone/text sex and DIY ...I'd estimate 6-10x a week.

Usually about once a week but it can last in total for several hours! I'm 68. DP, she's a sexy 62.

30 times a week ! Surely that would just mean lying in bed all day, every day? How would you fit your life in?

For us, probably somewhere between 1-2 times a week, but nothing at all around period week. I recently started a new job and no longer leave home at 6.30am in the week, so we have a new 45 minute window before the kids get up in the morning which has increased our frequency!

@FinnGermey

30 times a week ! Surely that would just mean lying in bed all day, every day? How would you fit your life in?

For us, probably somewhere between 1-2 times a week, but nothing at all around period week. I recently started a new job and no longer leave home at 6.30am in the week, so we have a new 45 minute window before the kids get up in the morning which has increased our frequency!

That sound miserable on so many levels - sorry

Period week is awesome.

Making time for sex is important and creates a real bond (plus orgasms are good for mental health)

If you are too busy for to make love to the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with, you need to reevaluate what’s important, because it sure as hell isn’t the ironing or the dusting if you can’t make time for some hot lovin’

Sex most days, both 44.

Once a year, if that to be honest

4 to 5 times a week, but there are obviously weeks where it doesn’t happen.

For context, we are a blended family of 6ish. Me (35), DH (50), DSS (26) not at home but surprisingly stays over a lot and by a lot every other weekend with his partner. DSS (23) at home with us and girlfriend pretty much every night, DD (14) home, DS (11) home.

4 or 5 times a week for us when working. Once or twice a day when on holiday. DH would like it more.

I'm 45, DH 59.

Once twice a week sometimes ..it is crap
But sick to fuck of talking about it when I complain he just says well I am here to have sec with any time, I want to be wanted not like I'm making him do it ...

To be fair teenage kids In the house who don't go to sleep till midnight biggest turn off ever !

About once every 3 weeks..... On a Sunday morning. Both mid forty's. been like this for years now. It's very predictable.

In my last relationship (18 years) once a month if I was lucky. With my now Dp (14 months) almost every day (unless hes on nights when it might only be 2-3 times a week)

Zero at the moment,but open to offers !

I'm 46
Dp 48 and usually everyday. I think our sex life improved when our oldest left home so we had more time for ourselves as the two younger ones go to bed at a decent time and sleep well .

4 to 5 times a week

For the large majority of our relationship, daily. But varies, depending on stress and work. I have a higher sex drive than DH and the minimum for me is twice a week.

I'm 42, DH 46. Together 20 years. 4 DC.

2-3 times a month at the moment and this has been the most we've had for years. We're both 39 and we've been together since 16. We've had our difficulties over the years and I feel that I've never truly been dw type and she stuck with me for other reasons. We make a great team financially and parenting but over the years the lack of reciprocation, long sexless periods, affairs and separated periods have killed my confidence and sex drive.

@humpday

2-3 times a month at the moment and this has been the most we've had for years. We're both 39 and we've been together since 16. We've had our difficulties over the years and I feel that I've never truly been dw type and she stuck with me for other reasons. We make a great team financially and parenting but over the years the lack of reciprocation, long sexless periods, affairs and separated periods have killed my confidence and sex drive.

Affairs???

I'm 42, DH 47 - about 4 times a month, ie probably slightly less than once a week. Suits me fine as I'm not very driven that way - DH I'm sure would like at least twice a week. I'm not sure we ever did it more than twice a week.

Both mid thirties and together since we were 19.

Could be 4 times a week. Could be once a week.

We sort of cycle between it not being on the agenda and really being on the agenda.

But we're both very happy.

Back to school combined with furlough is going to make for a good November!!

Once a week if I'm lucky!

DP has no sex drive and I have a high sex drive. We argue a LOT about it!

Whoa people are having a lot of sex here!

We have sex about 3 times a month at the mo, but we do have a baby...Before the baby, maybe 3-4 times a week but I'm not expecting that to return any time soon!