how do you do it

[thistimeitsdifferent]

I have name changed for this.

I’m 35 (female) and I’ve never really masturbated and I’d like to start.

Can anyone tell me what works best for them? Is it down to your thoughts, how you touch yourself, toys?

Feeling the sudden urge and I’m at a loss with what to do to myself. I don’t know if it’s embarrassment 🙈

I didn't masturbate until I was in my 30s either.

What I've found myself, and from discussion with other women, is that its incredibly individual what does it for you.

Me personally, I want a vibrator on my clit and some porn to look at.

You might find you prefer just fingers and erotica.

None of these preferences are bad - they're just your individual wants and needs.

My advice - go to Lovehoney site and look through their descriptions and the reviews of the various toys. If something piques your interest - buy it!

The Ferly app is really good for setting an intention and talking you through some solo play exercises.
With toys, I think it's a case of trying and seeing what works for you. A standard vibrator like a rabbit is always a good place to start.

I’d try reading some erotica first. I’ve heard good things about OMGyes but haven’t tired it myself.

@thistimeitsdifferent

Anais Nin books are pretty erotic!

OMGyes is really good. Gives you proper demonstrations of how different women masturbate. I'm learning a lot from it!

Rampant rabbit every time !

Omgyes is really worth it. A bullet vibrator for me too - the Tracey Cox one on lovehoney is good and inexpensive.

I didn't try a vibe until a little older... DH instigated it although I was reluctant. He surprised me and OMG it felt amazing.

Just find what works for you. The best for me is a bog standard vibe with soft latex outside which we both use inside me. The rabbit was too intense as it vibrates the clit and as someone who cums easily, didn't need that.

Once I got used to it, I have used it on my own when DH is away. Really nice after a bath and feel relaxed. The vibrations I can feel through my pelvis and assume cervix and is very arousing. I only have to either touch my clit and it makes me cum, or pull it out and rest it on my clit

Mine is what I guess is an average size and I enjoy feeling "full" with it inside

Good luck

I can do it myself but it's happens quicker with a vibrator, more intense and goes on for longer. You have to be in the mood, it's like your brain and clit have to be in sync (can't think of a better way of putting it) for it to go from feeling just nice to intensely pleasureable and leading to an orgasm.

I recommend masturbation - I started late too, and its really improved my sex drive!

I find I have weaker orgasms with vibrators. I recommend getting familiar with your body and using your fingers, at least to start. I have b much, much more intense experience with my fingers and much better orgasms.
I also recommend keeping your pubic hair! Its part of women's pleasure and I can get incredibly turned on just by gently, stroking my pubic hair - not even touching my skin.
I also like pressure around my pubic bone.
Also recommend turning yourself on with fantasies before starting to touch yourself. Personally I don't use erotica or porn. I find my imagination does the trick.

Layla Martin will have videos on this I am sure.

I use a bullet from Love Honey, whilst DP is inside me. Hot as fuck.

Something makes me think the OP is very good at masturbating.

This is not relevant really, but a few months ago, I was walking over a canal bridge, and a woman I thought might be about 40ish, was just flinging a pink rabbit vibrator off the bridge, into the canal water.She obviously saw me. and started laughing. The rabbit floated for some time, and then went under..I didn't ask her why she was throwing it away though.

".I didn't ask her why she was throwing it away though." Could have asked why she was littering. Ugh.

@rambleon1 I know exactly what you’re saying, had the same thought myself! So transparent!