So for a bit of background and not to drip feed, I'm early 40s, female and recently my sex drive has gone through the roof! My DH isn't complaining and we enjoy sex 2-3 times per week. I can come with deep penetration, which normally ends in me squirting - very nice. However, at my age I realised I had never come from clitoral stimulation - it always seems to take so long with fingers/oral, although to be truthful (and I have recently told my DH this) it's more that I'm embarrassed it can take some time - it's never like that in films when women seem to come within minutes. I know those scenes aren't real by the way, just that obviously on some level they have affected how I feel and think about taking my own pleasure. My DH is very understanding and we have talked about our sex life, things we'd like to try and things we both enjoy so I know he is happy to give me oral for some time! I just need to relax into it.
So, onto my subject - I bought a Womanizer Pro and OMG it was amazing. I had an intense orgasm like I've never, ever had before. And another, and another. Lovely. Just sometimes I find I'm not coming as quickly or easily with it and it takes some time (all comes back to time!), does anyone have any tips for how to position it well, using lube etc? I don't want to desensitize my clit or anything!
And thanks for this Sex topic. Reading it over the past few weeks has really helped me open up to my DH about what I want and it's been so positive, not just for our sex life but also for our relationship.