Cannot feel him

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Around a year ago my DH was a bit stressed and started to experience ED. He's been to the doctors and was given the all clear along with viagra prescription.

Sometimes he does not always need the tablets but loses it when we have PIV. He is ok with the viagra but now it all feels very forced, and I still very rarely come when we have sex.

He has always satisfied me in the past, but over this year I can't find any pleasure in sex with him and often don't orgasm. I make sure he enjoys himself, and then I'm left feeling very frustrated. He sometimes tries other ways to make me orgasm but it doesn't work...

I love him but no longer find him physically attractive. Has this happened to anyone - did things improve. It is having a knock on effect on other areas of our relationship and try as I might I just don't enjoy it with him

Is he giving you plenty of oral? Try introducing toys for him to use on you.

I love him but no longer find him physically attractive.

This seems a bit of a red flag in this post. Having ED is one thing and an issue that can be worked upon.. but if you’re not finding him attractive at all, there’s a bigger issue there.

Do you think the lack of satisfying sex is causing you to find him less attractive, or vice versa?

Is he any good with his hands? I’d be starting there - most men are not great at this, sadly it gets dismissed as an activity for teenage virgins, but when the technique is good it can be even better than penetrative sex IMO.