what is your favourite thing to do before/during sex?

[Mumoftwox]

basically looking for ideas on how to spice things up a bit between me and my partner been together 8 years and sex is fizzle out a little!

Talk dirty. Reminisce about previous hot sessions. Suggest new or different positions or techniques.

Before sex....well naughty texts...suggestive erotic talk....bath/shower together.
sex appetizers and during sex..lots of oral....tell each other what you like. Lots of kissing and touching. Try a new position. Try having sex in the kitchen or lounge etc
After sex....cuddle up and do nothing but be close...

finger in the ass during doggie...

I rather enjoy having my arse slapped!

I like sexting/sending x rated GIFS, dirty talk, frequent general touching (both intimate and general affection) throughout the day, lots of oral...

I like dressing up and sending DP pictures. Drives him wild.

Dirty talk is good (from him). He likes using toys on me. Being teased. Him really taking me. Dining room table has been a good one.

Be interesting for suggestions for those of us with three young children and an au pair in the house....

Sexting and pictures. Man I can't believe I never did it until last year. Drives me crazy and it means I know how much my partners love my body, which i always thought was inadequate. Its private, quick and cheap assuming you have a phone. Means you can do the foreplay while commuting/putting the kids to bed and then have torrid perverted sex as soon as you are alone. As for the au pair - nothing hotter than having to be dead quiet, or recommend the au pair to others as a babysitter

OK so talk me through sexting.....do you literally send a pic of your vaj? Do you send a pre sext warning in case he opens it at work with others sitting nearby?? I can only see pitfalls but it would be quite fun, I must admit.

OK so talk me through sexting.....do you literally send a pic of your vaj

You build up the anticipation with suggestion.
Start relatively innocent and build up.

For example, you could start with something like:

'I really wish you were here'
'I feel lonely sat watching this programme on my own, I wish you were sat with me and we could be snuggled up together with your big strong arms around me'
'My legs wrapped around your waist'
And just get progressively filthier...

Sometimes I do just send a suggestive picture though.

If you wanted to send a picture and were worried about colleagues you could send a series of texts something like:

'I've got something to show you'
'Make sure your alone though'
'It's not suitable for work'
Then send the image

I've never sent explicit pictures. Boobs I have but it's usually me in lingerie. I've sent some of my legs, DP loves them and they're long. Two from the bath of my legs, first one had lots of bubbles, second one the bubbles had almost disappeared. Drives DP wild as he's very visual. My face isn't in any of them, I take it so the phone is over my face. I also message him first to warn him not to open the pictures around anyone else.

I've never sent explicit pictures

Ooh you should, it's so much fun!
I agree about faces, I never take a sexy photograph with my face in

Never put your face in your pics if you can, revenge porn is utterly horrible.

I like words more than pictures but both are great. I go for accurate detail, eg 'so restless thinking about touching your big cock' and head rapidly downhill from there. I like doing lingerie pics a lot, partly because I'm 50 I have to say. Nothing turns a man on like reporting on how aroused you're feeling in real time IMO.

But the first time I ever did it I literally just sent my husband a picture of my breasts to cheer him up - not sophisticated. After he died I found he'd carefully saved that picture onto every photo backup we had, which I luckily discovered just BEFORE sharing a time looking at photos with his mum.

Sexting
Roleplay
Anal
Lingerie
Feathers
Restraints

As other posters have said you have to be careful with pictures. An ex of my dp’s alleged that he’d sent her photos of me naked. I was so anxious I launched an investigation with the police and thankfully it was all a lie but it could have been so different.