How does one go about getting a FWB?

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Asking for friend

It's been over two years since I've dtd & I'm feeling kinda desperate now.

Tinder is your best bet.

Two years????

It doesn’t have to be that complicated. In the right circumstances, there is nothing wrong with having sex with a good friend. And then the trust is there.

Obviously you need to discuss matters first. But you should do that with and sexual friendship anyway.

I was the same but ended up meeting a friend online on one of the standard sites who became an exclusive FWB. Join the dating thread on the Relationships board and loads have FWB there, mainly through FAB Swingers sites I think.

Pof, as they will message you and you can reply if they take your fancy.
Tinder & Bumble if you have the time.
You need to be a little cheeky with your messages and then the guys who you're looking for will soon get your drift 😉
Oh and try not to fall in love with them 🥰

If you are REALLY brave you can try Fab swingers (website not an app). It is full of men looking for a shag. You need to carefully word your profile, set and stick to clear boundaries and be thick skinned on the subject of cock pictures.

Personally I find it far more honest than OLD. I delete any message with less words than cocks, no face pic no reply... I’ve chatted to a few nice guys and met 2. Both were respectful. The first was a one time only although we did exchange a few pleasant messages afterwards. The other became a FWB (he was round last night actually for sex and Chinese food!)

I have a social date with a potential number 3 on Friday!

I’m having a lot of fun, feeling sexy and still maintaining boundaries. I found OLD just too much like hard work and I’m definitely not in the right place for a proper relationship. Message me if you want more information.

Op - Fab swingers is not for the faint hearted... but definitely worth a look. You can set up a profile for free, and hide it from everyone, while you have a look around, and get your bearings.

Then as previous posters have said, set your criteria carefully, and be prepared for a barrage of male genitals ... However, there are decent, respectful guys on there (ask me how I know )

Feel free to pm me if you want any more details.

Ask nicely

Oh its really easy. It has never been easier with the internet etc. Theres dating sites,discussion forums,friend of a friend,social situatios etc,,it just needs a bit of confidence. Most guys who are available will be receptive to an approach. Of course on line you have to keep an eye for fakes,liars,married etc etc,,all the usual stuff.

Fab swingers. The men on there are much more honest, upfront and respectful generally.
Just have a play with your filters while you get used to the site.

I prefer the term friends and lovers. So they are friends first and then lovers as well. They live independently, have their own lives and we come together for outings like dinner, lunch, movies, days out etc and if the outing ends up in bed then fine, if it doesn't then that's fine too.
I met mine either IRL or through OLD. There are subtle hints you can make in your profile that will spark an interest.

My friend signed up for Tinder. She was not short of offers!

Sort of looking for the same myself.
I had a great relationship before some years ago. Great to have someone you trust to talk to and have mutual rewards!

It can get complicated but also helped keep the faith and marriage going.

I couldn't sleep with a stranger from tinder.

It didn't feel like an affair, more like amazing friendship. Very hard to explain really.

I am getting close to feeling like you OP, been nearly 2 years and sporadic before that. But signing up for a site called FabSwingers is just a little too far for me at the moment

Lunch in Stratford upon Avon anyone? (:

I wish there was a more open society and a safer forum than a swingers site or some app that feels like a cattle market.

You don’t have to swing to be on fabswingers, there are loads of single people, and you set your limits as you want them.
People have been lovely and respectful, and it’s much more honest than other sites.

I've been on both adultfriendfinder and fabswingers. I like the up front nature of a hook up site tbh.

There is a site called Literotica which is primarily For erotic fiction however they have a number of sex forums including a personals ad section. You can have all sorts of conversations on those forums - lots of sex talk but also general conversation. If you placed an ad as a woman you’d be inundated pretty much with people contacting you. You can chat within the website but most people move to Skype or some other messaging system. This is the point where you’d likely exchange pictures if you wanted. Fab Swingers is obviously very direct and has photos up front - I haven’t used it but looked at reviews and found some pretty derogatory, racist comments which would put me off. ( i know that may not be other people’s experience). You obviously need to know that there are a lot of married people on these sites and quite a lot of people with kinks or fetishes or who are very open minded and adventurous. It’s probably best for you to stay away if you’re going to be easily shocked by non vanilla sexual acts. ( eg pegging) Literotica has a very open community ( lots who just want chat) and if you were curious about certain sex acts they would definitely help you out by explaining things to you. It’s how I learned that I was nowhere near as adventurous as I thought I was.

FABSwingers is a good site for this.

Tinder worked for me!

Interesting info. I am longing for a FWB due to stale sex life with DH over the past few years. I enjoy sex and it's just not a priority for him anymore or maybe it never was.
Thanks for sharing 👌🏼

Holy shit! Joined fab swingers a little over an hour ago and my inbox is inundated with dick pics ever since! Not sure this is the site for me at all.

Any other suggestions or advice on how to navigate through this one..?

Try POF. They have "looking to date but nothing serious" section.

Ok thanks! Will check it out.