How to find non vanilla partner?

[MehIAmKnackered]

Hoping someone has experience of this.

I've been exploring this side of me for a number of years and have now been single for a few months. I don't think a relationship with someone who can't be the type of non vanilla person I crave for satisfaction will work long term and that's what I want, a long term relationship.

But...How do I go about finding it? I can't exactly trot off to bumble and include in my profile "I am a bratty sub looking for a caregiving dom please to get into my head and my knickers as well as my life". It would be chaos.

But I dont want to go to the heartache of getting into a relationship and then finding that we are totally mismatched in this area. And bringing it up early on just makes people think that's all I'm interested in, when it's really not- just important to me.

Any ideas?

Fetlife

I second Fetlife too. Maybe go to a few local munches or a club and see what happens?

Meant to add - just be careful. Loads of fake Doms out there, moreso since that 50 shades of shite shit.

You are not going to catch trout in salt water so heed the above advice.

Alt.com You can specify exactly what you are into. Forums are good to chat. Meet potential partners multiple times in public environments, as per a "normal" date, before taking things further.

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I just asked him to slap me the first time we got down to it. Had a feeling it would be alright and it was. Happy days.

I would advise you to lay your kink cards on the table on either the first, or second, date. This type of sex is important to you and if it frightens off some people, it means that you haven't wasted time and energy on a relationship that is going nowhere.

Best wishes.

OkCupid allows you to tailor your profile this way too. Worth a try if you don't fancy fetlife.

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