We have been married for 4 years and have 3 children (11,9 and 2 years). We always had an amazing sex life but for the past 8 months it Is always me who initiates sex and it doesn't always work iyswim. We have gone from having sex two to three times a week to maybe once a month. It's really taking its toll on my self esteem. I've started eating more to make up for the lack of sex and now I've put on a bit of weight. I feel completely unsexy and would love for him to just ravish me like he used to.