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Sorry tmi. Is my dh bu to ask me not to orgasm?

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Leaky1 · 20/11/2018 06:24

About six months ago my dh read an article about how female squirting during sex is pee. He was quite upset, and it has caused a lot of drama. We stopped having sex for a while, then tried it again only to have another incident. He has now told me not to finish, so to speak.

I have said either get over it, or don't have sex. Is he being unreasonable?

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 20/11/2018 07:50

Seriously?? What an arse he is...

He needs to educate himself... And not from porn

DailyMailWankers · 20/11/2018 07:51

@TheMaddHugger

🤣🤣🤣

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 20/11/2018 07:52

leaky

Yes he is being unreasonable

Orgasaming isn't something you can stop anyway (or is it...i dont really know, ive never tried to do it)

ImNotKitten · 20/11/2018 07:53

Whether it’s pure pee or just contains pee, there is pee involved so I can see why he’s turned off tbh. Not everyone is into water sports.

Mintychoc1 · 20/11/2018 08:03

I’m presuming that what comes out of his penis when he ejaculates is melted chocolate? Champagne? Something else delicious? No? Thought not. What an arse. Unbelievably stupid and selfish.

Bluewidow · 20/11/2018 08:05

He's bizarre most men would love you squirting. Just don't have sex with him and play him at his own game. When he wants Alex and he will just tell him no, you will squirt and he doesn't like it. Although is he using this as an excuse for another reason not to have sex?

SimplySteve · 20/11/2018 08:07

Where do I sign up for champers ejac? AFAIK neither a man or woman can stop an orgasm, although a man can stop ejaculation.

SimplySteve · 20/11/2018 08:08

When he wants Alex

Haha great autocorrect!

YetAnotherSpartacus · 20/11/2018 08:09

I’m presuming that what comes out of his penis when he ejaculates is melted chocolate? Champagne? Something else delicious? No? Thought not

Now, if God was a woman...

Personally, I'd like a nice Speyside single malt.

And men would complain less about women not giving them BJs.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 20/11/2018 08:11

yet

Love speyside malts....

Grace212 · 20/11/2018 08:18

OP's been around for a while so could have posted in the Sex topic....

GerdaLovesLiIi · 20/11/2018 08:19

Biscuit (for target practice)

ElectricMonkey · 20/11/2018 08:22

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Birdsgottafly · 20/11/2018 08:22

Female squirting in Porn is wee.

Coming with your Partner isn't.

He needs to grow up.

ghostsandghoulies · 20/11/2018 08:25

Would he have sex but not finish? He's vvvu to take the Internet as gospel and act this way.

MemoryOfSleep · 20/11/2018 08:26

The study only refers to women who produce a glassful of 'ejaculate' with orgasm. Yes, that was mostly pee. But it contained small amounts of the liquid that is the true ejaculate. Earlier research on smaller amounts of ejaculate suggested that they are chemically different liquids, if you read the article that PP linked to. So I'd say the study is far from conclusive.

NotANotMan · 20/11/2018 08:26

Do you actually squirt every time you orgasm? Or is he talking about regular secretions? Because either way, it's not pee, but it would help to know exactly what level of ignorance he's at.

If my partner told me not to orgasm during sex they would not be my partner for much longer.

ResistanceIsNecessary · 20/11/2018 08:27

So you are supposed to not derive any pleasure from having sex.

Which makes you a basic receptacle for his lordly cock, presumably?

And he thinks this is fine?

How on earth do you find yourself sexually attracted to this man? Personally I find unbridled ignorance to be a huge turn-off.

Hannahmates · 20/11/2018 08:35

He's BU by asking you not to finish during sex. Sex should be pleasurable for both parties. However, it is true that "squirting" is pee. Females do not ejaculate.

notapizzaeater · 20/11/2018 08:40

Bet he's not willing to not orgasm during sex ..... he's being a dick !

Hannahmates · 20/11/2018 08:45

In 2014, scientists decided to take their studies of squirting and female ejaculation a step further by performing a biochemical analysis of the fluids emitted (similar to the 2011 study) and pelvic ultrasound scans to observe the bladder. Seven women reporting “massive fluid emission” during sexual stimulation participated in the study.

First, the researchers asked the women to empty their bladders, provide a urine sample, and then undergo a pelvic ultrasound. The second part of the study required the women to become sexually aroused in an examination room, either alone or with a partner. As the women neared orgasm, they were asked to undergo another ultrasound. (Sounds like a turn on, right?) After this second ultrasound, the women resumed sexual stimulation in the exam room. After eventually orgasming and squirting, the researchers requested another urine sample and performed yet another ultrasound. They also collected the squirting sample.

Here’s what they discovered: the first ultrasound confirmed the women’s bladders were empty after using the bathroom before arousal. But the researchers observed a noticeable filling of the women’s bladders from the ultrasound taken right before squirting. After squirting, the third and final ultrasound revealed women’s bladders appeared to be empty once again. This suggested the squirting samples were urine.

When the researchers compared the chemical makeup of the urine and squirting samples, they discovered that they closely resembled each other. (The researchers did not observe the presence of female ejaculate in any of the squirting and post-squirting samples from five out of seven of the women. However, it was present in samples for two participants.)

The authors wrote, “The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists.” This means the researchers believe that squirting is primarily just pee, though there may be a small amount of fluid from from the female prostate in the liquid, too.

So, if you squirt, what’s on your sheets? According to science, probably just pee.

medium.com/@englishtaylor/myth-busting-is-squirting-just-peeing-326651caa980

Some of the ladies here are in denial. Squirt = Pee.

That said, it is unreasonable to expect you not to orgasm at all during sex.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 20/11/2018 08:52

I have said either get over it, or don't have sex.

Yep. You're right, he's a twit. Grin

longwayoff · 20/11/2018 08:55

Yes he's a fool. Tell him it's quite easy to find someone else to orgasm with if he's not keen.

ReadMyLipss · 20/11/2018 08:55

I'm sorry but there's something wrong with him, there has to be.

What sort of husband asks that of his wife and doesn't think it's an utterly selfish request??

If you can't then he shouldn't be able to either.

roundaboutthetown · 20/11/2018 08:58

What, he expects you to tolerate his ejaculate but will not tolerate yours?! Even if it were urine, it would contain a lot less harmful bacteria than the ejaculate he inflicts on you. Tell him you'll stop ejaculating when he does. And that he's a weirdo if he's happy with all the secretions of mucus produced during sex to lubricate everything, but has a problem with the idea of something that never used to upset him, because he now thinks it might be urine.

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