My quiet dh!!

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Anyone had any luck with coaxing some noise out of a very silent dh??
After 6 years together I have announced he is too quiet and makes me feel he isn't actually enjoying himself!
I don't want porn star quality but a few signs he is still alive would do!!
He promises he loves our sex life but is just quiet!!
He once said his ejaculation was automatic and not an orgasm. Of which he said has happened only once - sadly not with me.
Any ideas gratefully received!

He once said his ejaculation was automatic and not an orgasm.

What?

My ex was quiet but the look on his face was pretty expressive- does he look like he's enjoying it even if he's quiet?

If you don't mind me asking, how noisy are you?

The reason I ask is that I'm now very quiet, almost silent, but that's because I feel awkward being verbally expressive with my wife because she herself is very quiet and non-expressive. In contrast, my previous partner was very noisy and expressive and this brought out the same from me.

I think you have to be fully relaxed, confident, comfortable with your partner and able to let yourself go to be be noisy during sex and I'm of the opinion that this doesn't happen as often as we might like to believe.

As soon as there's any self consciousness, quietness may ensue.

Just an option to consider.

I can be a bit vocal, happy to tell him /direct him to what needs done!! He has put weight on, me too and I feel yuck at times! Know he isn't that confident as such.

Sink your nails into him he'll make a noise then it just explain that you would like him once in a while just a little bit indicate his enjoyment by saying something, because you would like it and it will add some frisson to his cick inside you

He once said his ejaculation was automatic and not an orgasm. Of which he said has happened only once - sadly not with me.

Your husband ejaculates but claims to have never had an orgasm with you? Something is not right here or he is extremely naive about his bodily functions. Male orgasms are nothing like ours.

You can have orgasm without ejaculation but I don't believe ejaculation without orgasm is possible

Just been researching! Hope I dont die and my search history is broadcast! Apparently they are different. Dh is very easily aroused - sorry tmi, and doesn't last long, am thinking he needs some longevity training!
He was a late starter (20!) and maybe not as confident as he would like.
He is still young(ish - 37) - time to work on him yet!!