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Anyone else out there who couldn't give 2 hoots about sex?

12 replies

Alibongo37 · 07/11/2018 21:08

Just wondering....
As you never hear that this could actually be a preference.
I have no desire to have Sex whatsoever and could live very happily without it. Just wondering if anyone felt the same or if I'm on my own here!??

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Christian77 · 07/11/2018 21:43

Some people are genuinely asexual.
This is life. There is a spectrum of sexuality and we each exist somewhere on it. There is no normal or abnormal, that’s the big thing to understand. The trick is to find happiness in what you are.

Parky04 · 08/11/2018 09:12

Doesn't matter what your sex drive is but your partners sex drive must be similar or relationship will probably fail.

PouchofDouglas · 08/11/2018 20:56

Op. You need some porn and a vibrator

Tinkerbellx · 08/11/2018 21:53

It's not about the sex for me .
It's about the intimacy that only me and my partner share .
I have a highly stressful job and busy life all around really , but when we get that precious us time ..... it's the best feeling and I sleep like a baby afterward !
Are you single ?
I didn't give a monkeys when I was single tbf .

wishywashy6 · 08/11/2018 22:02

Weirdly when I was with my exh I never ever thought about sex.
We very rarely dtd and when we did I usually just did the shopping list in my head.
Prior to him I'd had quite a colourful sex life but I totally lost my sex drive when we were together. It didn't bother me at the time at all, I was quite happy without it.
Since splitting with him I'm a complete whore it has returned big style and I can't get enough with my new partner 🤷🏼‍♀️

Alibongo37 · 09/11/2018 07:30

No not single. Similar drives. Getting the right environment can obviously help but I can't even be bothered getting into that environment. I literally am just happy without. If anything, it's a chore.

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MarieG10 · 09/11/2018 10:03

Well if you are both genuinely happy then so be it and what does it matter. However, any relationships I have known of when the sexual side breaks down long term ultimately ends with one party ending it

xpc316e · 09/11/2018 15:58

I am in my early sixties and it would be fair to say that sex matters less now than it did years ago. However, even though the desire has waned a bit it is still there. It may even be a bit more of a mental desire nowadays, rather than a physical need that had to be met in order enable me to walk around without an erection.

It would also be very true to say that I would hate to have to live without intimacy. We are always entwined in bed, whether sex is on the agendum or not, and I would sincerely miss that physical connection with my partner.

LinkieLinks · 09/11/2018 15:58

I am the same could genuinely live without it and wouldn't care. My fiancé doesn't mind it and obviously is happy when we do but doesn't push me to do it

Isitsixoclockalready · 09/11/2018 19:11

If both parties in the relationship aren't bothered it's not an issue. If there is an imbalance then it could definitely be an issue that if not addressed could lead to irreconcilable differences.

Christian77 · 11/11/2018 13:09

My wife appears to be like this and I find it really difficult to deal with. I have tried talking and all that, but it’s one excuse after another. So I’ve now disengaged, not really sure what to do. Some people are sexual, others aren’t. My mistake was thinking I could change this. I long for passionate sex like I had before this, but it’s not going to happen with her. So I’m stuck, I don’t have the heart to walk away. I feel a bit like Lester Burnham in American Beauty!! It’s a common scenario this, on both sides of the fence.

Isitsixoclockalready · 14/11/2018 19:17

Christian, I can empathise. I had a similar situation with my ex and we ended up going our separate ways - all pretty civilised and i now enjoy a balanced and fulfilling/loving relationship with my current DW. That was my experience and others can maybe live with it. I couldn't and my ex understood and to be fair, we had grown apart anyway but it was a major factor for me.

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