Sexual desires/fantasies changed since having a baby

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Has anyone else found that loads of stuff they liked before having a baby they no longer like postpartum? I feel like we're struggling sexually because don't like a lot of things my partner does now which I did enjoy before baby. Partner is confused and saying he can't be arsed getting to know the new me, he just wants me to be the person he was with sexually before I 'changed'.

Any experiences? I'm 34 and liked it quite filthy before if that makes a difference. Now I'm more into sensuality than hard fucking and being called a whore.

It's a common thing and to be frank, men...at least good men, usually change too. It's also common for Fathers to go off porn....once they have a child, they usually become more empathetic.

A man who "can't be arsed to get to know the new you" can fuck off as far as I'm concerned. This is BAD.

Sorry but this:

“Partner is confused and saying he can't be arsed getting to know the new me,”

Is terrible!

Did he actually say that?

Yes.

Well he's going to have to get used to it and start being kind of he'll push you away!

I'm single since a few weeks into pregnancy so haven't put this to the test but I have noticed that the thoughts of usual things that got me going don't have the same impact now. My sex drive has returned but I don't know yet what works for me now as I haven't been able to explore that.

That's what it should be now for you and your partner - an exploration together. You must feel awful, OP - I'm sorry he is taking that view.

Cheeky twunt, tell him you can't be arsed having sex with him x