On Top

[PinkLady01]

So I’m seeing a new guy who loves me to be on top but our rhythms just don’t match - he wants to go really fast (which I struggle with!) so I prefer a slower pace. This has never been an issue with my ex because he was the same.

It’s making me feel insecure because I can’t go as fast - help!! Any tips?!

try 'twerking' so on top facing each other and just move your bum up and down, not rest of body IYSWIM?

Haven't really got any tips as I prefer grinding on top, not a fast up and down movement. Maybe try alternate between the two, and go slow then faster. It's meant to be about both of you anyway, not just whst he prefers.

I’m the same, have no problem going on top, but feel really mismatched and my confidence is taking a hit.

Tell him you like it slower and then do that.

Why does he need it to be fast? What about what you like? I'd dump over this by the way, someone so selfish

Try it cowgirl style I find it easier to get some control and he gets a good view lol

I can't go fast on top, more of a grinder as a pp said. When we are ready to go fast dh does all the work and I just sit basically. Works for us.

I don't think any of us can go really fast on top, only if he's doing the thrusting lol

I find it's easier if he puts his knees up, it helps.

Or if he's sitting more upright in bed rather than lying flat.