It's been 4.5 years since I've sex!

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Not even sure why I'm writing this thread. Split up from my husband in March 2013 when I was pregnant with our 2nd DD. Had a short relationship in the spring of 2014 and that was the last time I saw a penis 😭 I was always a sex every night girl with my ex's and I feel I will never bump uglies with anyone ever again 😭 dating is hard as s single mum and I'm not one for casual sex.

I went without for 2 years recently as I wasn't interested in casual hook ups but it was definitely worth waiting for... can't get enough of new partner. The 'dry spell' didn't really bother me all that much though.. kind of put it to the back of my mind.

How is that helpful xpc?

Are you quite sure you wouldn't experiment with casual? Casual doesn't only mean strangers and one night stands; it can lead to more regular, friendly set-ups too.

I'm in the same situation as LittleDonkey and couldn't do casual either as I'd need to get to know the guy very well first. I think I also couldn't cope with the friendly set-up you mention either. Does it mean you see someone you're sleeping with out and he treats you like you're nothing or just an acquaintance? I couldn't cope with that.
Actually the only way casual would be possible for me would be with an ex, which I suppose is not really casual...

I can top that sadly. I went 12.5yrs without in my marriage. I can't fucking believe it now. thoroughly made up for it since though

If you're not one for casual sex then the thing your missing is a relationship, one that would then include having sex. This day and age, just having sex is the easy bit

Jason - OP obviously knows this. She said dating is hard in her situation.

I went 2. 5 years without sex . I got used to it I think . Now in a relationship with a guy with a low sex drive and I'm finding that harder to deal with than not getting it at all. I can honestly say the dry spell was better than this.

OP I can totally get what you mean and your aversion to casual sex. A few ears ago I was celibate for nearly three years. I'm not a solo performer so meant zero orgasms, too. Don't completely rule out a casual though. I was persuaded by friend of friend to have casual hook up and it was surprisingly good and restored a lot of confidence.

This day and age, just having sex is the easy bit

well that's all very well if people show an interest in you, and if your interest in others is reciprocated. If that's not happening then getting to have sex is far from easy.