To give up

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Me and my partner have been together just under 2 years, we've been living together for 9 months, long story short when we first got together our sex life was great no issues what so ever, but recently he's been cumming way to fast and only lasting a couple of minutes unless we constantly stop so that he can stop him self, half the time I'm not even having an orgasm, I'm just at the point of giving up with sex now, he'll choice the most ridiculous times to decide he wants it (stupid hours of the morning)

Is there anything I can do because I just feel frustrated all the time 😫🙃

It is strange he has developed this after previously not having a problem. Have you talked to him about it and the need for you to feel satisfied

What has he said when you've talked about it?

Although it's good to know if anything has changed for him, why not just let him cum...take away the anxiety....and then play together, chat and be ready for when his erection returns, as it surely will!
Just chill and enjoy.

I do let him cum I just don't feel satisfied after he's done and then tries other ways to get me to finish, we've spoke about it a number of times but his excuse is that he's just getting old ...he's 27 years old 🙃 he knows it an problem for me, last night he came to bed at 4:30 am ( after playing on the computer all fucking night) every single night I go to bed and sleep by myself so when he does he want sex it's when ever he comes to bed can be anytime after 1am...I've literally tried everything, I dress up, I've toys he can use handcuffs a whip but he doesn't use any of it

He literally just sits at the fucking computer when ever he's not at work..we literally spend no time together after the kids have gone bed

Don't let him PIV until you are on the brink. Get him a cock ring.

May sound like a silly question but what is he doing on the computer? Could he be watching porn and getting really turned on by that, that when he goes to have sex with you cums quickly?

Try to have sex with him during the day or at another point (before it gets to the middle of the night and him not be on the computer) to see if that makes a difference.

He's literally just playing league of legends online 😂😳 actually dead embarrassing 😂 I've told him Time and time again that I don't want sex at stupid times of the night as I'm a really shit sleeper and once I'm awake I'll be awake for the rest on the night😒😒

@sugersweet if he wakes you up for sex again just keep refusing until he shows interest in you at normal times of day. If he just wants to play his games all the time I'd ignore him and enjoy your life while he plays his game.

I think you’ve got more issues in your relationship than just his premature ejaculation

He’s a grown man. Why is he spending all his time playing video games until the early hours? If my other half spent most nights playing games till gone midnight then climbed into bed expecting sex I’d tell him to piss off! But he wouldn’t do that because he’s a grown man..

I reckon you need to talk to him. Tell him you need to start spending quality time together away from the bloody computer. THEN deal with his sex problem.

Fair play to you for sleeping with him when he behaves like a child. That would be a huge turn off for me

Half the time I just act like I'm asleep and he stops 😂 it is a massive turn off for me, we've not had a single date night in the last 8 months...we've had nights out with friends but not quality time together, this morning I had to take my daughter to school (9am) then a doctors appointment straight after so i didn't get home till half 10ish....when I come in the washing up still wasn't done and the dining room wasn't cleaned so obviously I had to do it before going back out to collect my daughter, he was just sat on his computer, he literally spends all his free time in the computer or asleep 🙃

Is he working? Is he depressed? How does he keep these hours?

He works 5/6 days awake, he's only on his computer in his 'free' time, he's not depressed he just calls himself a gamer

Hmmm that's tough then, if he was depressed I could get the "escapism"

I honestly have no idea what is wrong with him or us.... I know that I don't work atm and he does but it not like I don't do anything all day 🤨 someone has to keep this house clean and the kids and dog feed 😅

Maybe he cums quickly to get it over and done with? With him having a busy day, working and playing his computer until early hours. Quicker it's done quicker he can go to sleep, and men find it easier to sleep after Cumming... I don't know just a suggestion.

Have a conversation with him about it, that's the only thing that'll help the situation.

Honestly we've spoke about it so much he just says it's 'old' age even though he's 26, he constantly moans about cumming to fast, he's not been at work today and I've tried to insinuate it but nothing 🙄 I feel like its me half the time

It seems it is all about his pleasure at the moment and not yours. Tell him this and that you want to get more balance. Ask him to make you cum orally or with fingers or toys. Perhaps making you cum or just getting to that point before insertion. He needs to realise it is not just about him cumming. To be honest he sounds quite immature and selfish.