New to pegging

[DextroDependant]

I am seeing a guy who I have been FWB with on and off over the last 4 years. We always drift together when we are both single.

This time he has mentioned me fucking him with a strap on.

I have never done this before, I have had the odd partner that likes a finger up the bum but I have never used a strap on.

So any tips for a newbie? I am not opposed to the idea, just a bit clueless.

The main rule is to build up slowly. With your finger you can feel tensional changes from your partner but with a strap on you don't get that physical feedback, so communication is absolute key.

Get a strap on with an O-ring harness, so you can use different sized dildos. Start with the smallest. If you buy from Lovehoney they have a "beginners" pegging set with a dildo about the size of a man's finger. This is an ideal starter.

As I'm a bit of a short arse, I prefer to get guys on the bed, with a couple of pillows under their butt so their arsehole is pretty much on a level with my strap on. If they are short then bent over the bed is an option.

I'd suggest buying specialised anal lube - I use Liquid Silk for vaginal but Anal Joy Jelly for butt stuff since bums don't produce any natural lubrication.

Forgot to mention - a lot of guys (especially younger) are too scared to ask you to play with their bum out loud. If you want to, give them a massage on their lower back and kiss their arse crack. If they want rimming they will open their legs. If they don't then just fuck them or wank them off.

Google Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise. She is an American Sex Educator and pegging enthusiast who is superbly knowledgeable. Listen to her podcast #112, as it is entirely information for women about pegging. Good luck!

Thanks for the advice. We had a little venture to that side last night, going to build up to the strap on. He has done it before but it's all new to me.

'I have never done this before'. As usual, some porn can be instructive - and a turn on. Do a 'pegging' search on Youporn and then filter for the most viewed for some ideas.

Pegging porn majors on the dominance, and/or sissification of men. I would suggest that the truth of it is much different. I would advise against using web porn to gain knowledge about pegging, much as I would counsel against it to find out more about sex in general.

I think I will take my lead from him. I much much prefer the man to be in control and was worried this would be instead of the sex we usually have but last weekend it was in addition too so I am quite relieved.

xpc316e: ‘Pegging porn majors on the dominance, and/or sissification of men’.

Well, yes, that might be true of most pegging porn and porn more widely. And, further, it’s possible to argue, that porn is clichéd, exploitative and in (this is key) dominant mainstream forms a ‘bad thing’, certainly not wholesome educational material. But a 5 minute perusal at the site I mentioned, will confirm to you that it’s not all like that. Pegging porn as other categories does come in different forms, including the dominance, and/or satisfaction of women and, better still, mutual satisfaction. I’m sure that DextroDependant, like others, can make judgements as to what is so much BS and what looks pleasurable, worth trying, etc.