Finger in the bum

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Name changed. My husband and I want to explore anal where I do him. We tried finger in his bum with LOADS and LOADS of lube but he can't relax enough to enjoy it and let me get past finger tip.

Any suggestions on how to progress?

Can be exciting during oral, a blow job, very exciting in fact. Sex and sexuality are a potentially expanding erotic feast - if that makes any kind of sense. But there just are some things that don't turn some people on physically, try as they might, even though they like the idea of trying. BDSM has never really done it for me for example. For some people, it's the highest point of sexual arousal.

Buy a douche first, get him to use it till "the water is clear". he may be a bit hung up about potential mess so douching is essential.

Otherwise get him drunk. Its great if you can find the P spot.

Agree with having a drink first. Try whilst also giving him a blow job and go very slowly until your finger's further.
Try a 69 position so that he's also focuses on you and not just thinking about what's going in him.

I'd clench so tight I'd break her finger.

Get him drunk

Imagine a role reversal and suggesting getting a wife drunk to do anal!

Possibly a poor choice of words. Yes alcohol helps relax, but please don't go as far as to be pissed

Needs to practise on his own. Soapy finger when nice and relaxed in the shower or bath is a good start.

Assure him that the extra prostate stimulation from a bit of bum play is most definitely worth the effort.