What’s the perfect size?? 😉

[Mermaid27]

So just curious to see what others say, I’m happily married to my partner however sometimes I can’t help feeling like I’m wanting a bit more in the trouser department. My hubby measures in around average in length at 5.5 inches and normal in girth....however....I’ve only been with 3 partners before him all of who were quite well endowed (6 1/2 inches and big girth, & 2 others at 8 inches). Before we had our 2 kids I always had that ‘full feeling’ when we first set out doing the deed, but now 2 babies later, and a loss of friction I feel like his size is becoming an issue in my head when it probably shouldn’t be.i love him to pieces and he’s very adventurous and not at all selfish in bed, I just feel like I miss that full feeling from having a bigger 🍆 🙈 if I’d never had bigger would I feel like this?? And can I do anything to help make me a bit more ‘snug’ lol

Pelvic floor exercises and/ or ask him if he wouldn’t mind wearing a penis extension sometimes when having sex.

Yeah I’m not so sure about the penis extension thing...

You’ve measured every man you’ve been with? Really? And with impressive accuracy too. That’s ... unusual. I’m a bloke and I don’t remember anyone ever measuring mine, and I haven’t done it myself since I was about 15.

Are you sure you’re not “asking for a friend”?

You're in danger of becoming a size queen!

(I don't have anything useful to add, I just heard that term the other day and I've been dying to use it.)

Hopefully someone will have some good advice :)

It's not the size of the ship it's the motion on the ocean that counts.

Its not size for me its the "fit" that makes a difference. I was with a new guy recently and he was very long, ended up bashing my cervix and causing trauma, it was not better with him than smaller guys I have been with although he was a good lover. My ex FWB is smaller, wider and literally fits just right.

i would second doing pelvic floor exercises, have a look at kegal balls and positions where the fit feel tighter.

Im with tricuspid. Ive had a few more thAN 3 partners and not one of them has ever measured it. I might have done 30 odd years ago but who measures girth!?

Sadly though after child birth it seems not uncommon to feel less than full.

Pelvic floor excercises! And dont mention an extension. Imagine how youd feel if he said it was like waving a flag in space!!

I’m sorry but I think my DP would DIE if I asked him to wear a penis extension!

I'm with Normski - not even sure I want to see what one looks like.

If it was produced, I would be beyond mortified..

Now, where is that ruler :)

Quote from someone in my office the other day:

"I've got 12" - but I don't use it as a rule"

Hmm. Well having been someone always impressed with size I'm getting more refined in my tastes, having entered my "second wind" on sex in my 40s. There's a basic minimum needed, say 6", but what really counts is "moves", understanding how woman parts work, and for my 40-45 demographic, ability to get proper hard (rare, unfortunately, which has made me seek out teetotallers)

A penis that is big when flaccid looks great I think, but that's irrelevant really. When erect I like them nice & straight, 6-7" long & good & thick.

Smallest I've had was about 4" long & average girth - amazing in bed though - it fitted comfortably in all sorts of places!

XH's is big - about 8.5" & very thick but a weirdly lumpy uncomfortable shape, like three bananas lashed together - made me sore very quickly.

Biggest ever was a guy on holiday many years ago - easily more than 12" long & vastly thick - bloody useless though as it wouldn't fit anywhere & didn't actually get that hard probably not enough blood in his body

Current partner's is a perfect fit in all positions

Thanks for all your comments, I’ll defo try to start kegels. I’ve done sporadically before but so hard to keep up and stick to them 😩 interesting comment about drinking and blood flow, I’ve never heard that tee total thing before, he does like a good social drink after a hard days work. I’m terms of shape and appearance it’s perfect so no complaints there. It’s just the fullness I’m missing 🙁 sometimes I think it’s more me than him- damn childbirth plus he gets me quite horny with foreplay possibly meaning less friction (sorry if tmi)

To those commenting re size I did chuckle, yes me and an ex measured his for fun and 2nd/3rd guys both told me their size and I could guess they were about right (I was in my late teens and assuming it was normal for guys to measure, guessing they were a bit proud lol)

If this was him
Posting about your
Size saying he
Misses sleeping with a size 4 and
Not a size 10
How would you feel.

You need to just make him
More horny whilst he's fucking you it will work ! The more horny I get my husbands
Penis seems to get bigger inside
Me x

Women come in different sizes just like men. Funny thing is I have never really seen it talked about. So yes ladies we think the same about your equipment. With some we feel the friction, with some we feel lost in space. I'm guessing Op that you have always been on the large/slack side. So as others have said you should work on what you can change.

A bit left field but anal is often good for feeling full

Ha ha ha love the anal comment 🙈🙈 part of our repitoire but only when I’m in the mood. You’re right it’s not really talked about? I’m only Little myself 5”2 and 7 1/2 stone so I would always assume I was petite down there but perhaps not! Lol

Extensions and/or dildos can be a lot of fun. Choose carefully - some are very firm/hard and can be used even if the man is entirely impotent, some are soft and rely on the man being hard to give the penis sleeve/extension rigidity. Lovehoney have a huge selection.

Some men haven't ever measured themselves, some men have never masturbated and some men are liars ;)
Men usually know exactly what size they are and are very interested in their partner's views on the subject.

Some men have broad minds and elaborate fantasy worlds and lots of men get off on their partner wanting 'bigger'.

In a mature and adult relationship maybe it's something you can bring up with him in fantasies etc rather than have to worry about being put down in a childish way about being too big yourself.

With some we feel the friction, with some we feel lost in space.

Bloody love it!

I think it's a bit odd that u no the exact size to lol
But my eldest dad was very massive and tho it was nice to look at it wasn't good in sex or any better and if he was erm fast then it could actually hurt in a bad way

It's definitely how they use it an I think I've only got orgasm about 3 times through that kind of sex anyway so it doesn't even matter!

I mean my eldest child's dad btw lol 😲

One of my exes had a penis like a paint roller!! He was never hard without near fainting!! Poor lad!!

Have you tried different positions? I find since having kids, missionary with him on top isn't as "satisfying" as doggy style.

Have you considered using toys whilst dtd?